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I Am Not Too Good At This Friend Thing

I try, but stuff happens.

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I Am Not Too Good At This Friend Thing
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I've never had trouble making new friends or keeping up with old ones, but I could never sit down and say I'm the best person to be friends with. Like everyone else, I hang out with people I like, people who are similar to me, and people completely different from me that I respect. I have a list of expectations for each of my friends and I'm sure they have a list for me, but there are still some things I am very bad at doing as a social companion.

1. Impatient:

Like most people, there are days when I just can't stand being around people. I need my alone time and won't reach out to anyone during that time so I can recover. However, during this time, I tend to be snippy with my friends and I never think twice about it, but I don't ever want my friends snapping at me for any reason. I can often tell when they want to be alone and try to back off, but it doesn't mean I'm as kind when I'm not the one having a bad day. I also just get annoyed easily in general and I feel bad about it, but I often react before thinking anything through.

2. Hypocritical:

I often do things to my friends and that I would quickly hate if they did to me. I steal their food, but would smack their hand if they touch mine. I criticize their favorite celebrity, but will willingly fight them if they criticize mine. I love hugging people, but refuse to be touch without permission. This is something I am very well aware of and am trying to fix, but it's not an easy habit to snap myself out of.

3. Selfish:

People often say they will drop everything if their friends call them and need help. I don't do that. More often than not, I don't move until I know it's a real emergency. If they don't need me in the room, I will communicate through text, but only because I don't want to stop doing what I am in the middle of for something that can be solved over the phone. Worse than that, I will finish what I'm doing first before actually going over and helping them, unless it is a real emergency. That being said, I always need someone to be available in case I need anything and I get depressed when no one is open. This is pretty bad considering how needy I can be.

4. Rude:

If you know me, I am no stranger to sarcasm and I will make fun of you at every opportunity, but in that mutual way friends do. However, I tend to push the envelope whenever possible because I know we'll laugh it off. Even so, there are moments where I feel I go too far or say something too bluntly, jokingly or otherwise, and I accidentally hurt their feelings. It's an issue where I need to think before I speak, but that's never been a strong quality of mine.

5. Picky:

I can be nice to everyone if need be and I can be friends with most people I meet, but as far as picking good friends to hang out with, I am insultingly picky. There are certain people I trust, certain people I want to talk to, and certain people I want to be around. Because of this, I find myself switching between groups of friends for different situations and saying one thing to someone, but not anyone else. When people discover this, they become offended that I trusted, well, not them with whatever I had to say, but I always choose which people would possibly care about what I have to say. It's a sticky situation if I'm not careful, but it doesn't necessarily make it right.

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