The start of school is always an adventure- new classes, new teachers, and, in some cases, new friends. I found myself in the situation this past week of having a lot of friends, but missing the ones that weren't there. This led to me noticing a few of the new students sitting on their own, and thinking of the difficulties I've had in making friends.
College is hard, it's challenging. For most people it means striking off on their own, often away from their parents for the first time.
In that kind of situation, people are often vulnerable, which can make it difficult to put themselves out there and make friends. So for all of the freshman (and upperclassmen) who are struggling to find friends in the sea of strangers, here are three ways you can try to make friends even when college life is at its most challenging.
1. Realize That Others Are As Lonely As You Are.
Even though it may seem unlikely, others out there feel just as lonely as you. They could be your roommate, or a housemate, it could be the girl who sits next to you in class, or the guy who studies in the corner of the dining hall all by himself. Look for the people who seem lonely, who sit by themselves. It may be hard to take the first step, but doing so may lead to some of the best relationships you will ever have.
2. Be Social- Even When You Don't Want To Be.
As an introvert, I often find it hard to put myself out there and be social. When it comes to a school activity, I tend to want to stay home instead, even if it's by myself. However, I've learned that there are times when going to the school dance, or the soccer game, or a club meeting I'm interested in can become the best experiences I'll have that week. Sometimes you just need to go out and do something. Even if you don't get to know a lot of people, you may meet one that ends up becoming a life long friend.
3. Last, But Not Least, Smile.
School can be exhausting, and there are probably times that the last thing you want to do is smile, but trust me when I say that smiling can make a huge difference. People remember a smile. Say hello, wave, tell people good morning or good afternoon as you pass them on the street. If you see someone wearing a shirt from a show you like, or a book series you read, comment on it. These little things help people remember you. Besides, smiling helps you feel better, and the happier you are, the easier it will be for you to make friends.
Yes, college can be hard, and making new friends is sometimes scary, but always remember that others around you need a friend just as much as you need one. All you need to do is look in the right place, and you can make friendships that last a lifetime.
