With the advent of Fall, cuddling season has begun. Girlfriends are snuggling up with their boyfriends, drinking their pumpkin spice lattes while watching terrible Netflix films. This happens every year and one thing that never fails is that there is almost always a pumpkin spice latte close by. But for some folks that isn't the case. (The cuddling, not the pumpkin spice latte. That is usually a constant).
Lately I have had a couple of people comment that I seem lonely and that I need to find a girlfriend. I have questioned whether or not I am good enough and maybe I'm just going about this whole dating shindig the wrong way. I have come to the conclusion that these are not the case. There is nothing wrong with me and I just haven't really been looking. The fact that they think I am lonely is simply a matter of opinionated perspective.
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The fact of the matter is that there is absolutely nothing wrong with being single. The thing that matters is that I am happy. Sure I wouldn't mind having someone around to talk to (other than myself) once in awhile and it would be nice to go on a date or two (with someone other than Netflix). I won't argue that those who are in happy relationships should be single or it's better to be single than to be in a relationship. What I want to get across here is that I might be happy by myself. That doesn't make me lonely. That makes me freakishly good at keeping myself entertained for 20 years.
I'm not going to lie and say that I haven't found ladies that I think I would end up well with and that I truly enjoyed being around. I have. They have had different ideas about what our relationship should be like and that's okay. I tried, it didn't work, we're all still friends, and I'm still alive. The key is not to focus on the rejection so much and move on with your life. You are a freaking awesome individual (I'm still getting there). Also understand that you shouldn't take not being in a relationship as a sign that you are lonely. Being in a relationship isn't some sort of initiation or validation ritual. It's simply a step closer to finding the one you want to spend the rest of your life with (so choose carefully).
I suppose what I am trying to get at is that through all of these (not so) clear thoughts is that I can be alone in life and still be perfectly happy with who I am and what I have accomplished. And for all of those that say that you need to find "the one" before it's too late, just go ahead and give them the good old fashioned finger because nobody should judge you on your relationship status. Go out to the cinema by yourself, buy that large popcorn (it's half kernels anyway), and have fun doing things by yourself. If you can't figure out how to do this then you probably should not be in a relationship in the first place.
I am alone but I am never lonely. You are alone and awesome, and still not lonely. (And if you are please read this nifty thing again and go to the cinema).
