While growing up I never truly had the most self-confidence, if any at all, which caused a multitude of problems for me once I was in high school and even my early college years. One of the problems it created was rushing into relationships, whether it be friendships or with boyfriends. I found that if someone just showed me even once that they cared or had some interest in me that it would pull me in. Although a lot of times that was not the intention. I could not see it because of the fact that my confidence was so low and at the time it felt so good to have just one person show me attention. As I continued to let this happen and keep getting broken I began to see that I am enough and do not need to rush into anything. If someone wants to be with me then let me just say I am worth the wait. So to all the girls and guys out there who are like me and always want to rush into relationships, let me share some things with you.
When you first meet someone you want to show them every part of you, the good and the bad, as quickly as possible to see if they will stay. However, what I have learned is that that makes the other person lose interest a lot faster than you want them to. Once that person begins to lose interest in you then conversations become much harder to keep going. Not very long after that you begin to feel yourselves drifting further apart from each other and searching for reasons to work it out. In the end trying to make it work is what does more damage than letting go because you could see from the moment that person knew everything and began to lose interest, it was not going to work. So always know that no matter how much of your personal life you have shared with them, you need to let them go because you rushed into this relationship and it was never going to be healthy.
Take your time with everyone you meet, not just to keep some surprises for them but also to protect yourself. Yes, I realize that sounds selfish but in today’s time you can look around and see that people are selfish and more worried about themselves than anyone else. When I say protect yourself I do not mean forever, I only mean until a person comes along, the right person, and shows you that you can trust them. Once this happens you can begin to open up and share parts of you that a lot of people will never know about. This is when the intimate conversations start and you begin to see just how amazing this person truly is to stay even when they have seen and heard all the ugly things about you. I know it may be hard to believe right now that this could ever happen but hang in there and see what happens.
Once you tell yourself that you are worth it, you find that you do not rush into relationships anymore. Do not look for someone, instead, wait on someone because when it is meant to happen it will happen. Keep your head up and never give up. Most importantly, know that you are the most beautiful soul!
