I feel like we've all had them at one point in our life. Trust issues. People can blame them on past lovers, parents, grandparents, friends, etc. I am oh so guilty of that. It's so easy to throw that guard up when something starts to feel good again. Why do we do it though? Why do we stop something good from happening before it even gets a chance to happen? I see posts from peers all the time about how scary it is to let someone in. A big part about trust issues these days is that for some reason it's cool to not be "official". It's cool to not be in a relationship but to expect someone to act like they are. Does that make sense? NO.

So yes, it's terrifying to admit that you might actually want something with that other person because you know if you say that, they'll run. You have that mindset because that's how it's been for a while now. It's like after we're burnt, the next time or the next person that comes along and shows the slightest interest in us we shut down. Hard. We expect everyone to be the same. "Oh, this one is just going to be like the last. I'll get feelings and I'll show that and they'll bounce." Why is it such a crime to show that you care for another person? Isn't that the point? And if you're the person that does have feelings for someone and they say you're crazy for having those then leave. Find the person that does cherish those feelings and feels that way towards you.

There will be heartbreak. That's how life goes. You learn something from each one. Mainly it means that you're that much closer to finding the person that was made for you. So instead of punishing everyone who comes into your life as if they were the person that hurt you in the past, try allowing new things to grow. That could be new friendships, relationships with a significant other, or new family members. I'm not saying that things will work out every time because you went in with a positive attitude. I will tell you though that even if things don't work out you know you gave it your all and got to know someone new. So give people a chance and see where it goes. You can learn so much from different people and you yourself can teach others. Break the "trend" that it's cool to treat people like crap. Break the "trend" that it's cool to make relationships a game. Bring back dates and spontaneous trips. Bring back love and that it's okay to embrace it and acknowledge that it's a thing. Bring back happiness.