This is for all the girls who can not fall asleep at night because they think they did something wrong. Who can not even stand the sight of themselves in the mirror because some boy, some cowardly boy made you think you aren’t beautiful. For all the girls who shed far too many tears over a boy who didn’t really care for you. For all the girls who have had too many “I think this is the one” moments.

I promise you, it does get better. I’ll let you in on a little secret on how things eventually get better. Are you ready? Stop trying to search for someone. Stop spending your days worrying about what this or that boy thinks about you. Live for you, because no one can love you better. You do not need a boy to complete you, your man is out there I promise. But for right now? Do your thing girl, live it up. You want to eat that chocolate cake? Girl, you go ahead and eat it. You want to go to the gym? More power to you, go and kill it. You want to stay up until 2am watching chick flicks? I’ll bring the tissues.

I want you to know that it is okay to have nights where you are lonely. But don't you dare pick that phone up and text that boy that made you feel empty inside. That is not what you want, let alone what you need. Get yourself a body pillow, its not a bed hog like that boy. Do not be afraid to let people in, but don’t you dare believe everything someone tells you. Keep that tough spirit of yours, you got it for a reason. Speak your mind, never let a boy tell you that your opinion doesn’t matter.

Also, I need you to know that you won’t always feel like this. You won’t always feel like your heart physically hurts and that when you breathe you want to cry. Because once you find that man that makes you feel like you can walk on water, and that the sunrises really are the best time of day and that an episode of The Office is a cure for any rut that you are stuck in. You deserve to have someone play guitar for you, and sing even if they aren’t all that good. You deserve flowers, and cheesy cards that make you blush. But most of all, you deserve to have someone who genuinely cares about you, and I promise you he is out there. Stop trying to rush it, he still has a few things to work on. Or maybe a whole list of things that need to be tweaked.

Never settle for something that doesn’t feel amazing. That type of romance does exist, and you will find it. Stop wasting your time on boys who just want to know what your bedroom looks like rather than get to know what makes you smile, or laugh, or make you so mad you want to scream. They need to learn that you hate Coldplay, and are absolutely in love with the Wicked soundtrack. They need to know that you like pineapple on your pizza, and can quote Bridesmaids like you wrote it.

Do not give up hope, because when your man finally rolls around, or in some cases, stumbles, everything that happened before that made you feel like the world was ending at that very moment, will finally make sense.