A common assumption about long distance relationships is that they always end up not working out. Being in a long distance relationship myself, I am always asked questions such as "Do you really think it's a good idea?" or "What if she's cheating on you?" and "You know it ain't gonna be easy right?" I've known people, even friends, who have given give me flack for even having a long distance relationship. It may come as a surprise to some people out there, but long distance relationships can actually work.
Let me give my fellow long-distance friends some sage advice.
1. Ease up
In a long distance relationship, it's true that communication is important to have with your significant other, but to spam their messages 24/7 with the constant where are you, what's up, or who you are with kind of messages is just unnecessary and extra. No one is winning in this situation. You're just stressing yourself out and annoying them. Which leads me to my next tip.
2. Establish trust
Long distance or not, there is no relationship or even healthy friendship that I know of that has survived with a lack of trust. If trust wasn't established before, the second you start questioning one another it would be best to come out and be honest about it. If you keep your feelings held down for too long, you're just going to end up a complete mess. We're all human, so to have these feelings is natural.
4. Shower them with your love
Last time I checked, people love it when they're told "I love you" and receive gifts from their special someone. It lets them know you haven't forgotten about them. Remembering tip number one still keeps it in moderation.
5. Don't be a downer
Please don't go into a long distance relationship and expect the worst to happen. If you're just naturally a pessimist and a negative Nancy, long distance will definitely not be your cup of tea.
Talk about your future together, FaceTime, recommend a Netflix series to watch together, talk dirty to each other, but most importantly you both must...
6. Commit
It takes two to tango. To make this even possible, both parties should understand what they are getting themselves into and commit.
It all really comes down to how much you love this person. I will add one more thing before I wrap up.
7. That Feeling
When you see each other after it's been weeks, months, and even years, it's honestly like heaven on earth. The simplest things you do together just got 1,000 times better.
Don't get me wrong, depending on the distance, relationships can become hard to maintain, but a long distance relationship is not impossible.