Over the years I have let people into my life who probably shouldn’t even have had a chance. I have wasted my time and my emotions with people who just let me down at the end. At this point in my life, I’m tired of even letting people in to just get hurt.

I know that we let people into our lives expecting the best, but the best doesn’t normally happen. I think sometimes it's better to look the worst that will happen; then maybe you will be pleasantly surprised. This brings me to the whole idea that people tend to let me down.

Actions. Actions. Actions. Our whole lives we learn to act, when we say we will do something, make sure you follow through with it. I have always heard, “actions speak louder than words.” I 100% agree with this, and I believe that the way you pursue something with a person is the only way that relationship will work. Stop saying, “I will do…," and start setting a time and date for when it will be done. It’s exhausting for me to waste all my time, emotions, and everything else that it takes to put into a relationship (whether that be romantic or friendship.)

Enough with the lying and sneaking around, if you need to say something, say it. Hiding around the issue will not help anyone or solve anything. At the end of the day, I will make the shots to end something if I feel my time is being wasted. That probably sounds a little bit harsh, but I’m tired of wasting a lot of my energy on things that take up so much time. I have done it before, and I can openly say that the second you get rid of someone that hurt you or let you down, you feel free. I have done it a few times, and after I feel like all the bad energy has been removed from my life.

I always encourage friends to “ghost” someone that is causing harm or stress in their lives. Like I said before I know it’s harsh, but it really is freeing to not have to see their lives through pictures and statuses.

This can also allow us to have personal growth and that’s something I think we all need at one point or another; we need time to just find ourselves. Luckily, I have given myself time to find myself and fall in love with all the things that make me who I am. I encourage anyone who reads this to get rid of the bad energy and focus on finding and falling in love with who you are.