A Step-by-Step Guide to Loving Yourself & Being Your Own Cheerleader
A Step-by-Step Guide to Loving Yourself & Being Your Own Cheerleader
People often forget to love themselves due to life’s struggles and setbacks. Regardless of what happens, it’s important to be your own cheerleader without depending on anyone. Everyone goes through ups and downs in, but some people let those circumstances define their worth, which does more harm than good.
A person cannot love another person wholly if they don’t love themselves first. There are many ways to try to fall in love with yourself again, but the trick is to stick with the progress. Here are some ways that will help you cherish yourself:
1. Do Not Compare Yourself
The first mistake that any person makes is that they start comparing themselves to others. Everyone is made different, so there is no way that you can look or act like another person, even if you tried. Life is not about competing; it’s about being content and peaceful with what you have. Rather than focusing on becoming like others, pay attention to how you can improve yourself to live a better life.
2. Don’t Let Others Define Your Worth
As long as you’re alive, people will always have an opinion about you. You should not let others’ opinions get to you as if you’re happy with your life. Always remember that you’re not here to make people happy. Instead of wasting your time on pleasing others, get back on your journey and live a life that you won’t regret in your old age.
3. Everyone Makes Mistakes – Let It Go
Mistakes let you grow and come out of your bubble. It’s important to allow yourself to make mistakes and learn from them. Nobody is perfect, so don’t feel the pressure to do everything right. Some people let their mistakes define them, which is wrong. If you have made some serious mistakes in your past, don’t beat yourself over them. You keep changing from time to time, so let yourself grow and become the best version of yourself.
4. Your Body Doesn’t Define Your Value
This is the biggest reason why people stop loving themselves.
Having scars on your body or gaining weight must not define your worth at all. Confidence comes from within, and that is what helps you make a mark in the world. You’re valuable because of your intelligence, emotions, and feelings. Your body will keep changing as you get old, so there is no point in stressing over it. Be happy with your body and wear whatever makes you happy regardless of what people think.
5. Let Go of Toxicity – Even if it’s People
Tolerating toxic people because they have been with you throughout your life is unacceptable on all levels. You are not obliged to stick with a person who does not care for your emotions or is always finding a way to make you feel down.
There’s no point in sticking with people who like to make you feel down by playing the victim. You will come across a lot of such people, so having the courage to leave when the situation does not suit you is the greatest way to do it.
Protect your energy and don’t engage in toxic situations or toxic people if all they do is make you feel unhappy and uncomfortable.
6. Trust Your Decisions
Inability to love yourself can lead you to not trust your decisions as you might think of yourself as incompetent. Whether you choose right or wrong, it’s your life at the end of the day and only you should be making decisions for it. You’re better aware of your situation and life, so don’t let others take the driver’s seat of your life. Take decisions and stick with them even if they leave you disappointed at times.
7. Always Put Yourself First
You should always prioritize yourself first.
Women, especially, tend to put others first, sacrificing their needs and desires. Make yourself a priority. Take out the time to address your emotional and physical well-being to make your life better.
A Notebook of Love by Luis Trivino is a great read if you need help in transforming your life. It’s a mental health book written by US Army Veteran. The core concept is to accept your mental illnesses and love yourself to lead a happy and fulfilling life.
