I'm not one to brag, but I love being single. You only have yourself to worry about. Call me a loner, but I'm actually happier this way. I know I have goals and bigger dreams to accomplish in life. I love the taste of freedom and the drama-free zone. If you are recently or currently single, here a few secret hacks to living that single life:
1. Build your network of friends.
It's all about networking, finding yourself in a cohort of people who share the same goals and interests as you. You may not exactly like all of them, but you know you are going to need their help some day.
Create business cards for yourself so that it's easier for other people to reach you. And please, don't you dare share that silly email address you used as a kid or a teen. Treat this network professionally and appropriately.
2. Don't lose sleep over your enemies.
Your enemies are meant to bring you down, but you just got to keep your head up. They are always there for a reason. They could be jealous of your successes and would rather see you drown in despair and complete fiasco.
3. Spoil yourself.
After working so hard, you need to give yourself a break, a vacation maybe. Go visit Cancun or Havana. Relish in the moment when you feel burdened by all that weight on your shoulders. Go shopping at the mall or outlets. Buy yourself a new dress or a new pair of shoes to match with that outfit.
4. Finish school.
Go get yourself that degree. You're in school for a reason. You're going to have to provide for your family at your parents' age. You may feel frustrated at times at all the work load but welcome to the real world. Life throws you some scraps and it is up to you what you want to do with those scraps. Are you going to innovate and elevate? Or are you just going to sit there and wait for things to happen?
5. Remove yourself from social media.
Stop looking at old pictures and posting about what you are feeling. Truth is that if you keep doing that, you might be only doing it for attention. But if somehow you need serious help, find someone you can confide in and who can give you some counseling. Don't harbor secrets, because those can toxify your relationship with others.
6. Invest in your future.
Time is money. It's true. If you plan to go on to graduate school, you need to think about how much money you'll need or have to loan. You need a solid support system like your parents to aid you.
7. Get involved with charitable organizations.
It feels good to give to the poor and help the sick. If you know someone who's battling cancer, help him or her. Write letters and send little gifts, which can mean a lot to them.
8. Don't take shortcuts.
The quickest way out may not be the wisest. Sometimes you have to undergo a long journey to arrive at your desired destination. Take my heed, remember why you embarked on that journey in the first place. I may sound like Yoda right now but think about the prize, the greater reward. Who knows maybe you're a Jedi inside?
9. Be the best version of yourself.
Now how exactly do you do that, you ask. Well, it starts with making little changes in your life. Surpass others' expectations of you. Do more and I guarantee you will make the most out of your single life.
