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8 Things Never To Say To Someone Who Has Lost A Loved One

If you have nothing good to say, then hug them and keep on walking.

Kyleigh Marie
Jan 17, 2017
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8 Things Never To Say To Someone Who Has Lost A Loved One

At some point or another, everyone loses someone close to them. A few years ago, I lost my little sister. At the time it was a very difficult thing to cope with, but after so long it’s something you learn to deal with. During that time, I heard all of the phrases below, and believe me none of them were comforting. I know these things are said out of love, but please don’t say any of these to someone in mourning.

1. If there is anything I can do let me know

I know that this line is used to show that you care and that you're there for the person, but don't. They hear this line 100 times a day and it gets real old real fast. There is nothing you can really do to make it better, and you both know it. Hug them and walk away.

2. What happened exactly?

What happened is that they're gone. If you don't already know, then don't ask for details on what happened. If I want to tell you and trust you, then I'll tell you when I'm ready. Don't try to pry for information, even though you mean well.

3. You must be so sad

Well yes. I am sad. Wouldn't you be if you lost someone? Thanks for reminding me again about how crappy I feel.

4. Are you depressed?

Why would you ask that? Also, why would I tell you if I am or not? You're not my doctor or therapist, so that's not really any of your business. If you're trying to ask if I'm ok, then no I'm not.

5. What are you going to do now?

I thought after the service I'd hang around the cemetery for all eternity. What do you mean what am I going to do? I'm going to say my goodbyes, mourn for a bit, and then get on with my life.

6. Do you wish it was you instead?

OHMYGOD NEVER EVER ASK THIS!

7. Think of it this way, they're in a better place

Again, I know this is said out of love, but it's a load of crap. Whether you look at it from a religious stand point or not, it's not something we want to hear.

8. Be strong

Well no duh, thanks anyway, though. Now go.

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