"A Daughter Needs a Dad: To stand with her on the day she marries the man she hopes will be just like her father.
-Why a Daughter Needs a Dad by Gregory Lang
Here's some things you need to know:
I'm the biggest Daddy's Girl ever. My Dad means the absolute world to me and I have no problem admitting my love and adoration for the man who is my hero, my first love, and my best friend.
I've grown up absolutely thinking the idea of "you'll marry someone like your father" was ridiculous and not to mention even a little weird. I couldn't imagine marrying someone like my dad. That's weird.
Three months ago, I was lucky enough to get engaged to the man of my dreams. Andrew embodies everything I've wanted my future husband to be and I am so incredibly thankful to have a man like him in my life.
Andrew embodies all of the amazing personality traits and quirks of my father and now, I am so thankful to be marrying someone who shares similar traits and lifestyle choices as my father. It's safe to say the saying, "You'll marry a man like your father" is 100% true to my life and my future marriage and I couldn't be happier.
Here are eight reasons why I believe I am marrying a man just like my father, and I couldn't be happier:
1.) They have the ability to become friends with anyone in less than a minute. I'm not exaggerating. My Dad has always had the remarkable ability to walk up to strangers, strike up a conversation, keep the conversation going, and walk away from the conversation with a new best friend. My fiancé is also the same way. They have this incredibly friendly and comforting personality that just makes you want to become their friend. They can find a similarity or a shared interest with just about anybody. It's amazing.
2.) They have the biggest heart. Andrew is an incredibly kind-hearted individual. He always cares about other people and their feelings. He works hard to improve and maintain friendships that are important to him. He will go out of his way to do anything for a friend or a family member, or sometimes even a complete stranger. My father is the same exact way. Their big hearts and genuine kindness make me feel so lucky to have both of them in my life and they make me a better person every single day because of their kindness and warmheartedness.
3.) They see the sun shining out of every bad situation. Sometimes I can be a tad bit dramatic. I tend to hold all of my feelings inside of me and eventually, all my emotions will get to me. My fiancé has told me multiple times that it's as if I think the world is ending. That's pretty much true, at that moment in time, the world is ending. However, both Andrew and my father have this ability to always see the bright side of every bad situation. Whenever I'm having a bad day, I can count on either of these two to remind me that tomorrow is a new day and eventually it'll stop raining down on me. No matter how bleak or grim the situation is, they will find the brightness in that moment and as much as my stubbornness hates to admit it, they are usually always right too, and everything usually is just OK.
4.) They are the definition of hard-working. Both Andrew and my father are beyond dedicated when it comes to their work, their personal lives, and keeping promises to their loved ones. My dad currently works a full time job at a school district, a part time job at a church, and an occasional part time job at an accounting office. Sometimes he works on the weekends. Sometimes he gets home at 6:00 and goes to bed at 7:00, but this never bothers him. My dad is such a hard worker and when he is not working, he's going crazy because he's got too much time on his hands. Andrew managed to be a full time student, work three different jobs on and off campus, be a leader in the campus radio station, a member of choir, keep our apartment organized and clean while I work long hours at school, raise money for an entire study abroad trip and an engagement ring, and still manages to have time to spend with friends. I have no idea how he does it, but he does. He's so incredibly hard-working and dedicated to all that he is involved in. These men amaze me by their constant ability to keep going, even when they are exhausted.
5.) They are definitely go-with-the-flow type people. I'm a planner. I feel the need to plan every last detail of every single thing. Both my dad and my fiancé are just so laid back and are always up for everything. They do a good job at balancing out my over-preparedness. I need someone every once in a while to just remind me to relax and to go-with-the-flow and both of these men will do that.
6.) They can make everyone around them smile. This is probably one of their most endearing traits. Both of these men have the ability to be the life of a party and make everyone around them happy. It's nice to have someone in your life that is happy when they are making everyone around them happy. My dad always says, "Whatever makes you happy, makes me happy." When I'm smiling, Andrew is smiling right back at me. They just bring out the happiness in everyone and it's truly amazing.
7.) They are creative. They may not be the men who can fix everything that breaks in a house or fix my car, but they are creative. Andrew is a member of choir and he is always singing and putting his own spin on songs he loves. He producers liners for the radio. My dad works as a printer for the school district and often will design posters, programs, etc. My dad also is a pretty great writer and has a wonderful ability to put his thoughts, feelings, and old stories into words.
8.) They aren't afraid to love and show their feelings. Many people believe that men should always be stern and never show their true feelings, but both Andrew and my father are not afraid to show how they are feeling. My dad is amazing and tends to be extremely emotionally. We both shared tears and many hugs after walking through the chapel of my dreams and discussing how he would walk me down the aisle. My dad tends to cry anytime he watches something sappy on TV, like Extreme Makeover: Home Edition or Undercover Boss. My dad will always tell me how proud he is of my brother and I and he will always show his love and affection. Andrew may not be as emotional as my dad, but he is never afraid to tell me he loves me, hug me in front of "the guys," or tell me how he is feeling. I love their ability to be open with their feelings and it is an ability I am extremely envious of.
So thank you, dad, for having all of these amazing qualities that you've shown me within your personality over the years. I've always looked up to you for being such a kind, sweet, loving, and funny man. You've always shown me how I should live my life and the importance of finding happiness. These amazing qualities of yours helped me find the man of my dreams and I can't thank you enough.
Andrew, thank you for having all of these amazing qualities. Thank you for always laughing when I joke about how much you remind me of my father. As much as I think it's hilarious sometimes, it's truly one of the biggest compliments I could ever give you. I'm so lucky to have you in my life and I can't wait to be married to my best friend in a little over a year.