How did we end up in February? 2017 just started, and we're already into the second month. You know what that means, mushy-gushy lovey-dovey Valentine ’s Day posts are coming, and I’m hopping on the bandwagon. Thinking about Valentine’s Day reminds me just how single I am, but, where I'm at in life means that I could be finding my husband soon. How great would it be to meet my husband in college! There are things that I want in a husband, like for him to be taller than me. Then there are things that I know that I need to search for in a husband. God has given us things throughout the Bible to use as a guide, like to be equally yoked, and for the man to be the leader of the household. So here are a few specific things that I, personally, am seeking for in my future husband.
1. I pray he has a relationship with Jesus Christ.
This is the biggest thing! It is so important because if this is true, then everything else will fall into place. I pray my future husband will be in a very committed
relationship with Jesus, and is so in love with Him. No jealousy here- I want to chase and seek Christ with him.
2. I pray he has a heart for missions.
Honestly, that’s just where my heart is. I pray
my future husband wants to serve in the same area that I do. I want to stress that I want him to already
have the heart for missions, because I don’t want my love for missions to
influence our path in life. I know that happens often, spouses follow spouses because
they know that is God’s will; but I don’t want my husband to follow me as much
as I want him to run right beside me.
3. I pray he has a heart for people.
I not only pray my future husband is in love
with God, but in love with God's church and with God's people. People are so
important to me. I need someone with a kind and gentle heart. People are one of the areas of ministries I’m called to, and
like I said, I want to be able to walk alongside my husband and do ministry
together.
4. I pray he has a heart for worship.
Worship is such a beautiful way to communicate
with God. Whether it’s through song, prayer, giving, serving, loving, or just
living out your daily life, I want my future husband to understand worship and
to have a passion to pursue that. I pray our lives together will be an act of
worship. Also, I love being able to lead people in worship through song, and
that’d be pretty cool if my husband was musically inclined so we could do that together sometimes.
5. I pray he wants a big family.
I truly believe I’m meant to have a big family.
I pray that my husband wants this too, and that this isn’t a desire I push
onto him. I want God to use us, and use our family. If it’s a part of His plan,
I want God to bless us with beautiful children from all over this world.
6. I pray he is a leader in our family, and in the
church.
I know that God has designed families in a way
that the man is the leader of the household; so that’s what I pray I have. I
pray that he is bold and courageous, and is able to take the step of being a
leader in these and many other areas. I pray that he is already leading and serving right now.
7. I pray he prays with and for me.
I think this definitely goes along with being a
leader in our family. Prayer is powerful. I don’t want him to be shy in praying. I
want him to allow the Holy Spirit to speak through him, and speak into my life.
I want him to be willing to talk to God in front of many.
8. I pray my husband has a sense of humor.
I love guys who can make me genuinely laugh! I also need someone who can find good things to laugh at in our daily marriage life, and in the times when it’s so hard to find something good. There was this one moment where Blake Lively says, ““We were changing diapers and [Ryan Reynolds] said, 'You've got to get rid of it!' I said, 'OK!' And he goes, 'No, not the diaper, the child.'” (http://www.today.com/parents/blake-lively-opens-ab...)And that will forever be the sense of humor that I want within my relationship.
So guys, these are the 8 most important things that I'm looking and praying for! Girls, have you made a list of things that you want in your future husband? It's a great thing to have to pray over, and to make sure you're not settling for someone just because the boy is cute.
Now, just because I have this list doesn't mean that if God leads me in a different direction, that I wouldn't follow Him. I just want to be in God's will, and I want to glorify Him in any relationship that I have. However, I definitely think most all of these are Biblical, and the man that He has picked out for me will follow these pretty well.
So men, where ya at? ;)
