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7 Struggles Of Being Both A Hopeless Romantic And A Realist

Storybook Romances don't exist, but why do I still want one?

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7 Struggles Of Being Both A Hopeless Romantic And A Realist
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You probably believed in fairy tales as a kid, and maybe now you have a wedding Pinterest without a wedding. Yet, you're not blind to the reality of romance. These two naturally clash and can interfere with your love life.

1. High Standards

You know well that you have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find your prince (or princess), but no matter how many lily pads you look on, no frog seems royal enough for you. This one wants to hook up right away, that one's too childish, that other one doesn't know the difference between there, their, and they're!

2. You Require Effort

This may not seem like that much of a struggle on the surface, but with today's generation especially, it is. People can't just charm you into bed, they have to work at it just to get close to you. You're not impressed with a simple Netflix and Chill, you have to be taken out, talked to, actually won over by something other than bedroom skills.

3. Trying Too Hard is Also Unattractive

You like a fancy dinner as much as the next romantic, after a while, it all seems forced (And fancy food is kinda gross after a while). And there is such a thing as too cheesy. You're that they're willing to put in the effort to, well, get with you, but there is such a thing as trying too hard.

4. Wanting an Actual Relationship within a Hookup Culture

This is especially bad if you're in college. Everyone today wants a one night stand, but you're not down for that. You want something with actual meaning, not something to pass the time or an excuse to blow off steam.

5. You're Automatically a Prude

Just because you don't want to hook up every other weekend doesn't mean you're part of a chastity movement. You just view sex as something more than a way to pass the time. To you, it's an emotional connection made only with someone you're actually in love with. It's the ultimate connection any two people can make.... That and there are obvious consequences. You think a random hookup partner would care about any post-escapade drama? Nope.

6. Romantic Fiction Makes you Simultaneously Cry and Scoff

Once you finish that book/movie/show, you sigh to yourself and start to imagine that perfect romance happening to you. Then you remember how cheesy and/or unrealistic it was and dismiss the thought. After all, there are reasons true storybook loves are rare.

7. You Want Love, but Think You're Incapable of it because your feet stay on the ground

Hey, you can dream about being in love with someone, and all the feelings it can inspire, but you wonder if you're truly capable of such feelings. After all, you're practical and down to Earth, there's no way you'll lose yourself to the bliss and happiness all the articles and stories tell you about, right? Right? You never know, you may be.

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