Pain, anger, sadness, and even thoughts of revenge all come to mind when we think of that one person who has double-crossed us.
Multiple scenes are replaying in your head and can't be stopped until you figure out what you said or did wrong.
It happens to the best of us, and whether it was an ex-lover or an ex-best friend, it is never easy to cope with being stabbed in the back.
Getting screwed over can be the best or worst thing to ever happen to you, depending on what you do with all of your newfound anger. It is your reaction that determines the outcome.
These are some of the most important facts to keep in mind in order to speed up the healing process:
1. Stop trying to understand why they did it.
Accept that you will never understand them. It will never make sense to you or anyone else around you.
There are some things in life that we are not meant to understand right when they happen. It might be 10 years down the road until you find your answers as to why it never worked with this person.
Know that, for now, you have to agree to disagree and walk away, or you will find yourself spinning in circles.
2. Accept that you feel a little down and move on.
Bad things are going to happen to you. It does not mean that you did anything wrong. It is simply life toughening you up for the road ahead.
You have to learn to move past these bad situations and put your energy into things that make you happy.
You get to feel sad for a few days, then it is time to get yourself together and realize that a new chapter in your life is beginning, with or without you.
It is up to you to make this chapter even better than the last.
3. Put your focus into things that you can control.
This could mean focusing on eating healthier and getting into an exercise routine.
Spend some time on other passions and relationships that you might have neglected in the past.
These areas probably need some serious TLC, and now you have the spare time to commit to them.
4. Channel your anger into passion.
You could rip your ex a new one on social media for the pain they have caused or you could find something more valuable to do with your energy and time.
Option B sounds like a winner.
Start a blog, study abroad, write an awesome song and become a worldwide, award-winning sensation (thanks, T-Swift).
Focus on being the best you that you can possibly be, and the rest will fall into place.
5. It is not your problem anymore.
The worst part is already over.
Now you can take a breath of fresh air and know that this toxic person is not in your life anymore.
A weight has been lifted off your shoulders and a space just opened up in your life for you to bring something new to the table.
6. Stop trying to forget them.
You are never going to forget the relationship and memories you have with this person, so you might as well give up.
You learn something from every human that you encounter on this earth.
Take your experiences and lessons from this past relationship and use them to thrive in your next (yes, there will be a next).
7. Let karma do your dirty work.
What goes around, comes around.
Thinking of ways to get revenge or making your ex jealous will get you absolutely nowhere and only allows them to bring negativity into your life.
Sit back, relax, and know that fate has something grand in store for you later down the road.
