It’s a part of life whether we like it or not. And trust me, we don’t like it. If anything, we really want to avoid it at all costs. I mean, at least that’s what I do. But I guess I can only speak for myself. Over the years, it seems to me that I’ve found that anything that can go wrong, will go wrong. Always. When it comes to me I’ve found that anything that can go wrong, will go wrong. I have this tendency to get my hopes up only to get them destroyed shortly afterward. And it’s something that seems to happen all the time. Whether it be not making a sports team, not getting into a college, not making a club, it happens on a regular occurrence. At this point, you’d think I’d know better. But I can’t ever stop getting my hopes up because I figure, eventually something has to go right, doesn’t it.

Now, I didn’t write this to bitch online. I mean I guess that was part of the purpose but not the main one. Because of my regular meetings with disappointment, I have over time been able to find the easiest ways to get past it. Which now, I would like to briefly share with all of you.

1. Cry.

I’m not always a huge fan of this; however, what I have noticed is that I always feel so much better afterwards. Just release your emotions and let it all just be. It takes a little bit to get over your disappointment so it makes sense to first just be upset. That way you can eventually begin to move on.

2. Question everything.

I guess this kind of goes with crying but just keep releasing that emotion and just question everything. Other then releasing emotion this serves little to no good but at the time you just want to wallow in your own pity. So do it. Just don’t do it for long because that’s annoying and like I said it does basically no good to just be sad. But before you try to get over your sadness, let it happen. Be sad. It’s an emotion so just go ahead and experience it.

3. Find a friend.

Sometimes all you really need is a hug. Seriously. So go find a friend and vent or get a hug or cry with/to them. Sometimes you just need someone there to tell you it’s going to be OK or to tell you a story about how they overcame a similar situation. Maybe they’ll just be upset with you or maybe they’ll give you advice. Regardless another person always helps and you could definitely benefit from their company.

4. Go do something.

Anything. Go take your mind off of it so that you can be happy for a little while. You don’t need to do anything in particular but ideally something light that makes you happy. Getting away from the disappointment can make you see that even though what is happening to you sucks right then there are still good things in this world out there for you. While I guess this could be considered “running away from your problems” I don’t see it like that. I see it as taking your mind off of it.

5. Reevaluate what happened and potentially get mad (not sad).

Alright, I think a definitive way to get over what happened is to just get mad at what happened. I mean there is probably a chance you got cheated or feel what happened is unfair. This isn’t a long-term solution but normally it makes you less disappointed, which is the whole point of this post. You have the right to be mad. So do it. By being mad it means you’re partially able to move out of the sadness phase so just get past that.

6. Binge eat.

I know that everyone loves a good binge eat and when you’re upset is basically the best time to do it. If you’re on a diet give yourself a cheat day and then get back on that the very next day. Binge eating can make you feel better which right now is all I’m focusing on. So go get your favorite food and eat for a while. But only for one sitting because otherwise you’re going to run into some serious eating bad habits.

7. Go out and move on.

I think the final way most people have learned to deal with disappointment is to just go out, blow off some steam, and move on. I think that’s what normal person should do and you should to. All your friends will be by you and have the ability to help you get over it if things start to go south. You will be fine no matter what you do to finally get over this disappointment I just know that this works for many. I mean, best way to get your mind off something? Make sure your neurons can’t connect to remember it. Just saying…

Disappointment really sucks ass and has a way to ruin anyone's day. But that doesn’t mean we should give it our week. We have the ability to be the strong human beings we are and have the ability to come back from this and remembering that is very important. Remember that you are strong and that your achievements do not define you but rather your willingness to go for something you want and your desire to put yourself out there is what determines it.

We are all going to have times that just suck. But realizing that someone, somewhere has probably gone through the same thing is a god realization to make. You may feel alone, but WE are never alone. We might not like what is happening, but I firmly believe everything happens for a reason and we all will grow as a result.