Being in a serious relationship will change
you, whether you want to admit it or not. In my opinion, it's all a
change for the better. It's an enhancement, really. You were doing
life by yourself, which is totally fine, but now you have someone who
loves you and wants to do life with you, too. There never seems to be
a dull moment, at least not in my relationship, and I have someone
who will always be in my corner. I know there are some relationships
that are toxic and can do a lot of damage, but when you meet the
right person you know it because they are a positive in your life,
not a negative. Here are a few ways that being in a serious
relationship can change you.
1. You think of the future differently.
When you're single, you make plans for
yourself. Your dreams are the only ones that matter, and that's
because they are the only one's you really need to consider. When you
are in a serious relationship though, you have to consider your significant other's dreams, too. Your dreams don't have to change, but
they may need to shift a little bit. Building and dreaming in a
relationship is the funnest aspect to me. It also shows you can see a
future with that person.
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2. You make plans differently because you have someone who you have to consult with.
I am not the person who asks my boyfriend for permission to go out and do things, but I always let him know what's going on at any point in time. To me, it's respectful. If I just didn't come home one day, he'd freak out and vise versa.
3. You want to hangout with your partner more than anyone.
Before I was in a serious relationship, I had friends who I would constantly hangout with. I mean, whats better than hanging out with your best friends? The only difference now is my boyfriend is my best friend. I still have my friends who I love to spend time with, don't get me wrong, but there is something different when it's just you and your person.
4. You consider marriage as a possibility instead of just an idea.
Viewing marriage as something that will happen more than just an idea is really a game changer. Especially when you add the person you love into the equation. It's something to work towards, and it's something to look forward too. Everyone has different timing with marriage, and some are ready sooner than others. It's all about what you want as a couple.
5. You get used to constantly having a sense of companionship.
I am a person who thrives on alone time, especially before I was in a relationship. I think it's healthy to have some time to yourself, but when you get into a relationship you enjoy each other's company more than you do alone time. It's like it becomes an extra limb. I still enjoy my alone time, but I enjoy my boy more.
6. You grow up.
When it goes from "me" to "us" it takes
a lot of growing up. You have to compromise, make sacrifices, and
trust someone wholeheartedly with your heart. It's really a big leap,
and one you have to be adult enough to handle. If there is constant
mistrust and arguing about childish things, it really makes it rough
to be in a relationship. Petty fights will happen, but if you are not
grown up enough to see your faults, then it may not work.
7. You love more than you thought possible.
The number one best part about being in a serious relationship is feeling unconditionally loved, and giving that much love to someone else. I didn't know I could fall in love so hard, and it's something that makes life so so so much better. I have a reason to work hard, and a reason to try and make something with my life. I want the best for my significant other, and I know he wants the best for me. You never doubt if you're good enough because they remind you every day you are. Sure it's tough sometimes, but the outcome is worth every bit of it.
So, when you start to see those small little changes happen embrace them. There are so many uphill battles you may have to face in life, but being in a serious relationship shouldn't be one. You can have the best time, if you chose to. For me, I love knowing that everyday I'm coming home to the same handsome face and that I have someone who unconditionally loves me regardless of my flaws. You may see your relationship change and evolve into something completely different down the road, but it will all be for your benefit. God has handpicked someone special for all of us, so trust in the fact you are with who you should be with, and just let it happen –changes and all.
