When it comes to getting dumped and dumping someone, we have

all “been there and done that”. We have all had that one person that will always have a special place in our hearts; or the one that got away.  I think we can all agree that a break up is never something that someone wants to go through, but for the times that you may not have gotten what you wanted; here’s this list:   

1. Find someone else to fill your texting void.       

This may come off as a bit silly at first, but I am totally serious. I mean think about it; you are so used to always having someone there to talk to (no matter how long you dated that person), someone to rely on. Someone to text when something extraordinarily random happens to you and you just HAVE to tell someone.   

Our generation is so used to always having someone to talk to that when a significant person in our texting-life is no longer there we need to fill that void with something else—someone else.   

I’m not saying run to the first person you’re interested in a jump into another relationship. We all know that isn’t always the healthiest way to approach your new-found single lifestyle. No, I mean take a step back and re-focus on your life. Start texting some of your really good friends again. Be “that person” to start a friend group message to annoy everyone with throughout their school days. But whatever you do, don’t waste your time staring at your ex’s social media because no one will talk to you. Pity parties are never fun and especially never cute. Take initiative and do better for yourself.   

2. Be prepared for an overload of seemingly perfect couples…EVERYWHERE.     

It’s like, just when you become single again, the entire world decided to couple up and start holding hands while walking to class. They say, whatever you are repetitively thinking about normally manifests itself in your life in some way.   

Like when you get your first car and suddenly you start noticing everyone else seems to have your car as well.   

You become single…BOOM. Happy couples everywhere. As if life is personally slapping you in the face.   

3. Learn to become comfortable with being alone again.     

This doesn’t make you any weaker of a person. Any one who has ever dated anyone has gone through this. It is actually a very natural feeling to not want to be alone during the first couple weeks of a break up. If you have ever dated someone for more than three weeks than you easily formed a habit of constantly seeing and talking to that significant person.   

So when you don’t have that anymore, you are suddenly forced to retrain your brain to not think about that person and not “wait for the text that’ll never come” per say.   

4. It really is better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all.     

Life is all about living and learning. How are you possibly going to ever have a healthy and long-lasting relationship with another person if you have never taken the risk and fallen for the wrong person…again…and again?   

Yeah, break ups suck and they never ever get easier. They definitely make you smarter though, and stronger. Don’t make excuses for yourself because no one will better yourself except for you. Fall in love again… and again…because maybe it’ll work out. Then again maybe it won’t, but think about how wise you’ll be on the other side of the mess.   

5. You will start seeing other people that look exactly like your ex.   

Like going to the grocery store looking like a bum, and seeing every single person you know.

Only maybe you start to feel a little crazy because you are so terrified of running into your ex that you see someone with the same color jacket on that he/she used to always wear, and your stomach falls to the ground.   

I believe this is all just a side effect of over-thinking and needing a new hobby to fill your time…   

6. Sometimes, it’s best to “unplug” for a bit.   

If you know you have a busy day ahead of you, put your phone on silent and away for the day. I wouldn’t say leave it at home all day, for emergency reasons, but definitely focus your thoughts on what you have going for yourself.   Even just a few days a week of complete phone and social media “unplugging” I promise you will feel a lot less stress and emotional instability.   

7. Break ups never get easier because they’re all uniquely horrible, but hey, you’ll always learn something!   

When it’s all said and done, we are all in this world to create our version of happiness. You shouldn’t spend your time and energy worrying about what someone else is doing and why he or she doesn’t want to be with you anymore. You need to redirect all your time and energy into different outlets in your own life.