When reflecting on my eighteen years of life (although that's a short period of time in comparison to the average lifespan we're expected to live), I have learned some of the most valuable lessons that I'm sure I will carry with me throughout the rest of my life. I believe that these are things that if not already realized by most people, are definitely things that we can all relate to.
1. Things change and that's OK.
We become so used to daily routines and structure that when life throws us a curveball, we don't know what to do. I've realized that sometimes life will go off track, but it's just a matter of adjusting to what is going on and accepting that it's okay if things don't always go as planned.
2. Don't worry until you have to worry.
Don't get worked up over the little things. I typically find myself stressing out and overthinking things that haven't even happened yet. Stop that. Don't get distraught about something that hasn't even happened yet. There's a time and place for worrying, so don't sweat the small things.
3. If you have to walk away, then walk away.
Whether it's a toxic relationship, friendship, or even a job opportunity, if you feel in your heart that it isn't meant to be, chances are it's not. It took me a long time to accept that some things will initially seem so good and can turn out so bad. We all struggle with letting go of things, people, and opportunities, but more often than not, letting go of something will open the door to something so much better.
4. Your friends won't always remain your friends.
That best friend you've had since you were five may not still be your friend when you're 18. People change, which means you and your friends will all change. No matter how much we try to deny that the person our best friend used to be has changed, there comes a time when our eyes open and we realize the truth. You will lose friends, you will gain friends, and you will keep friends. Don't force a friendship just because of how long it's lasted.
5. Put yourself before others once in a while.
I typically find myself prioritizing my friends before myself. I worry about how they're doing and if they're OK. By doing this, though, I forget to worry about how I'm doing. Caring about others is by no means a bad thing because it shows that they mean something to you. With that said, though, be selfish once in a while. Prioritize yourself and your well-being over everyone else's.
6. Spend as much time with family as you can.
Don't take the time you spend with your family for granted. We're used to being five minutes away from immediate family at all times, but there comes a point when college comes up and you have to go. Being in college has made me realize how I took spending time with my family (whether it be my parents, my grandma or even my cousins), for granted. Enjoy the time you have with them before life changes and you don't have as much free time to do so.
7. Anyone who wants you in their life will make an effort to keep you in it.
I think that at this point in my life, this is the most important lesson, especially when I reflect on past friendships. The friends that I have now always make an effort to keep our friendship alive, and we all work to make it work. I know that even though I've had friends that I thought would be my forever friends, the friends I have now are the only ones I want in my life forever. People who want you in their lives will always make an effort to keep you there and that's something that is so important to remember.
