Those of us who are lucky enough to have snagged the loves of our lives know this; they wouldn’t be here without their parents. Not just because of the physical aspect that none of us want to think about, but because their parents, however involved, gave them experiences that shaped them into the humans, the men and women they are today. I personally know that there are a few things I would like to say to my boyfriend’s mom, in particular. I’d like to believe that these are fairly universal to most couples.

1. You were not perfect.

No parent is. You tried your hardest and let me tell you, it paid off. I am sure there are things that I don’t know about his childhood or you but I know that the product of his childhood, however screw-y, is beautiful. So good work.

2. You were brilliant

To raise someone as smart and thoughtful as your son means you were brilliant, just as brilliant as he is. You were brilliant enough to keep him on the right track, though I am sure he rebelled. You were smart enough to raise him right, and for that, I am grateful.

3. You were a saint

He has his moments of butt-hole-ness, like anyone. But I know he must of caused you some trouble; you must’ve been a saint to deal with an attitude like his. Can you teach me? *laugh*

4. You loved him

I see it in your eyes every time we surprise visit you. I saw it in your eyes when he moved away. I see it every time you say good bye again. You love him unconditionally, which is more than I can say for some mothers.

5. You taught him well

You taught him to open my door and take out the trash. You taught him to talk and walk and laugh and smile. You taught him how to be a human and how to be gentleman. You did well.

6. You made him into a man

You made him into a fine young man that takes care of me and loves me with his entire being. You showed him how to love and how to be loved. You showed him what love and what to do when you have it: hold on for dear life.

7. He loves you

I know it doesn’t always feel like it. I know he doesn’t always say it. I know he doesn’t always show it, but it is true. He loves you just as fiercely as he loves me. He misses you, too. A mother is a boy's first love, after all.

So, overall, thank you. Thank you for being a great mother and raising a beautiful, intelligent, caring, perfect son. Thank you for letting me into your family, and thank you for loving me like a daughter.