I am sure we all have had our fair share of relationships. I know I have. Obviously, not one of them really worked out, for many different reasons. Here are 7 signs he just isn't the one.
1. He doesn't show you off.
I am not saying he has to boast about you every second he can or make you his #WCW every week. What he should do is talk about you if something reminds him of you or talk about you to his friends. Every once in a while, he should post about you online. If he's not doing any of these things, he's probably not the one.
2. He doesn't care about your feelings.
If you are feeling jealous, angry, or uncertain he should care about it. If he is brushing your feelings off or making you feel bad about having them, he is not the one. Your feelings are always valid. The one will always be there to comfort you in times of uncertainty. If he's hanging out with other girls and you're uncomfortable with it and he tells you you're crazy for feeling that way, ditch him. He's not the one.
3. He tries to separate you from your friends or family.
This one is more a sign of emotional abuse. But, this is also a clear sign he isn't the one. No boyfriend should want you to become distant from your friends or family. The one will be inserted into your life. He will come to family dinners and to the movies with your friends. A guy who is trying to occupy all of your time and separate you from important people in your life, is not the one.
4. He tells you he loves you too quickly.
You may think I am insane for this one, but trust me, this guy is not the one. If you are one week into your relationship and he is already saying you two are soulmates and he loves you, he is not going to stick around. These guys are what I like to call the "uncommitted relationship junkie." These guys love being in love, but they never want to stay. Avoid them.
Tip: if you're creeped out by the quickness he is moving, he's the guy I'm talking about. Move one, he isn't the one.
5. He never mentions you in the future.
He never uses "we" or "us". It's all me, myself, and I. He doesn't see you in his future or he doesn't care enough to try to see you in his future. This is a clear sign that you are his short term and not much else. In this case, you're not the one and he definitely isn't the one.
6. He makes fun of you a little too much.
Teasing and light fun is all good. You two should be able to joke around with each other. But, if he makes you feel self conscious or makes you feel not good enough for him, that is where the line is drawn. That is not teasing, that is him putting you down. There is a difference. If he's doing this, he is not the one.
7. It feels like it's just sex for him.
You should feel a level of emotional comfort. You should feel like he is your best friend. If at any point you feel as though all he wants is sex, you need to run. A relationship is about fun, comfort, and love. Not just sex. If that's all he wants to do, instead of going on dates and spending time with each other's friends and family, he is not the one.
Every relationship is different, but these are definite signs he is not the one and not worth your time.
