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7 Signs You're Too Hard On Yourself

We're all guilty of it.

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7 Signs You're Too Hard On Yourself
Ben White

As humans, we strive for perfection. Whether that perfection presents itself in the workplace, at school, or with others, it's always there. "Be yourself, but don't try and be the best because that's not healthy." Well thanks, but no thanks. With perfection innately comes being hard on ourselves, and never allowing yourself to have a break. How many times have you felt guilty for something you had no control over? Or when you couldn't get those annoying thoughts out of your head that tell you you aren't good enough? Here are some signs you may be just a little too hard on yourself, and maybe now you'll finally realize it.

1. You overthink everything.

OK, let's be honest, nothing is more emotionally draining than overthinking everything. Your friend didn't use the same emojis she usually does? Or maybe that stranger gave you a nasty look and you immediately took it personally. Well, don't. Overthinking things that haven't even happened yet can be even worse -- ding ding, we have a winner. Give yourself a break! Overthinking everything will just drive you crazy, and who needs any more crazy in their life?

2. You feel guilty 100% of the time.

You said something you shouldn't have in that moment, or you feel bad for cancelling plans with your friends; it happens. Feeling guilty serves no one and once again just helps you to spiral down into negativity and sadness. Stop feeling bad for things you cannot control. I repeat, stop feeling bad for things you cannot control. Stand your ground and be confident in your decisions.

3. You compare yourself to everyone, even people you've never met.

Thanks, Drake, but I can't remember a single moment in my life where I wasn't comparing myself to someone who was smarter, prettier, or more successful than I am. But all that I have realized is that comparing myself to those super hot Instagram models or even Beyonce just makes me unhappy. My happiness should not be conditional; I need to be happy with who I am and that doesn't stem from constantly comparing myself to people.

4. You can't let things go.

That breakup three years ago that you can't seem to get out of your mind? Yeah, it's time to move on. Stop beating yourself up about things that happened in the past. Use those grudges as inspiration and get 'revenge hot,' as the kids call it. Hit the gym and drink some of that green juice stuff... You'll get revenge hot in no time.

5. You are way too humble.

OK, no one likes someone who is overly confident, but there is nothing wrong with knowing your worth. Being humble is cute and all, but when you go out of your way to never praise yourself for your achievements, we have a problem. Don't be too hard on yourself, know your worth and don't go looking for it through other people.

6. You're always tired.

Chances are, you spread yourself pretty thin because you don't want to disappoint anyone, while simultaneously not wanting to disappoint yourself by striving for perfection, and you know... Not ending up perfect. Whether it's work, social obligations, or maintaining meaningful friendships, you can't do it all. Take a nap, watch some mindless TV and just chill. You owe yourself this.

7. You cut yourself short.

Stop being humble and coy because it's "cool." On the contrary really, being confident is even cooler. Know your strengths and don't focus on your weaknesses. You are an amazing human who deserves to be acknowledged. Don't think otherwise.


Well, there you have it. Here are seven signs you may or may not be too hard on yourself. I'll let you be the judge of that though.

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