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6 Truths about Relationships

Sometimes it really not them, it's you.

Jordan Jewell

Mar 19, 2018

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Dating is tough. It's always been tough and it's probably always going to be tough. I can't think of a single change that the world could make to make dating any less tough. Here are 6 truths I've learned about dating that might make your journey just a tiny bit easier.

1) Sometimes a break up has nothing to do with you.

Sometimes people just aren't supposed to be together. Maybe you're just not compatible or maybe you're way too compatible. Either way, it's nobodies fault. Not every breakup needs to be a knock down drag out.

2) Sometimes a break up has everything to do with you.

You're a human being and you're going to make mistakes. Someone might dump you because you're at a selfish point in your life. You might not be the best listener. You might be really toxic for another person. You're not perfect and you're never going to be. When someone dumps you, learn from it. If someone feels that you hurt them, you don't get to decide that you didn't.

3) "Fixer uppers" aren't as romantic as they sound.

As cliche as it may sound, a lot of girls love the bad boys. There's a certain allure to being able to fix someone. We want to believe that we are the one person on this Earth that is going to change him. You're probably not that person. And if you are, it's going to take a lot of work. If you want to devote a part of your life to teaching a grown man how to treat you, be my guest.

4) Being "on again off again" is going out of style.

It's not cute or dramatic to tell me how many times you and your significant other have broken up and come running back to each other. I stopped listening after the 3rd time you broke up.

5) Fighting constantly isn't cute, it's emotionally abusive.

If you pick a fight with your significant other just so they'll feel like crap and tell you how much you mean to them, you've got a big problem. That kind of behavior is toxic and if you feel the need to act that way it might be time to find someone new.

6) It's easy to be confident in yourself when someone else is loving you.

If you feel completely crippled at the thought of someone leaving you, it's time to get help. It's okay to feel sad when your significant other is mad at you but at some point in your life you have to get comfortable being alone.

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Sometimes it really not them, it's you.

1) Sometimes a break up has nothing to do with you.

2) Sometimes a break up has everything to do with you.

3) "Fixer uppers" aren't as romantic as they sound.

4) Being "on again off again" is going out of style.

5) Fighting constantly isn't cute, it's emotionally abusive.

6) It's easy to be confident in yourself when someone else is loving you.

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2. When there is only one section of a popular course.

3. Receiving the 18,000 emails reminding you to register ASAP.

4. When you need to see an advisor, but they are too busy/unresponsive.

5. Trying not to dress like a bum for your appointments with your advisors/department heads.

6. When you have a perfectly planned out schedule, and one class ruins it.

7. Carefully moving things around to accommodate a different class/section.

8. Waking up at 6:00 a.m. for your enrollment time.

9. Concocting a new schedule at your enrollment time after your original plan gets changed.

10. Getting into a class and filling the last available seat.

11. When all of your classes finally go through.

12. Realizing that you forgot a class that was a pre-requisite for everything else.

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1. When you have to provide an "interesting fact" for your first day ice-breaker.

2. When your professor is babbling on and on in his lecture.

3. When you edit your friend's paper and they get an A.

4. When it's 2 AM and you remember you have a test tomorrow.

5. When you finish taking the test and you're pretty sure you failed...

6. ...but then you get the test back and somehow passed.

7. When you've been up for 12 hours straight writing a paper.

8. And then you manage to stay awake in class the next day.

9. When you have to butter up your professor for an extra credit opportunity.

10. When you're assigned a group project.

11. And your group-mates are trying to chat about life instead of the assignment.

12. When it's your last class of the day and you're about to go home.

13. But then you remember rent is due tonight and the anger comes back.

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