There's no skirting around the fact that unrequited love, regardless of what side of the coin you're on, sucks. Because of my experience in this realm, I thought that it would be super helpful to list six tips for dealing with unrequited love. I plan on making a video also but thought that it would be better received once the situation had died down at school.

Disclaimer: I refer to the person in question as both "them" and my "(ex)-crush" and identities have been purposefully changed to keep the privacy of those involved.

1. "It's not YOU, it's THEM"

If there is one thing Taylor Swift's music has taught everyone, it is that you shouldn't blame yourself for not being the person someone else wanted. It took me awhile to understand that I didn't need to change myself to fit the mold my crush seemed to like (which if I'm being super petty was ditzy and blonde). During moments like these, it is super important to ask yourself "Why am I trying to force a relationship that God is clearly saying is not meant to be at the present moment?" If you believe that God has a reason for everything, you should feel no need to try and force open a door that was closed by Him.

2. It's Normal to Feel Jealous

When I found out that my crush liked two of my best friends, I wanted to hurt not only him but my friends who had nothing to do with the situation. I'll be the first to admit that my sadness quickly became anger especially since the guy in question liked two of my good friends. Will I say that jealousy is the right emotion to feel in this situation? No, but will I admit that it is perfectly natural, heck to the yes! Don't ever let anyone tell you that you aren't "feeling correct". Remember that some things are outside of your control and that you can not force someone else to like you. Also, realize that it is okay to go through a "grief" period for what could've been. (At the same time though make sure to take note of your moods and make sure that a "crush gone wrong" doesn't trigger an emotion much worse than jealousy — like depression.)

3. Don't Make a Rash Decision

In my instance, the guy in question did ask for a certain type of picture (this really should've been red flag #1). An action that I am now super thankful I did not go through with (I'm telling you God blessed me with wisdom on that one). Don't degrade yourself by taking pictures of a person you're not in a relationship with. And if you're like me and decided against doing something that is (totally) against the law for minors don't feel remorse and think that this one event would've changed their feelings. If anything it would've caused them to lose respect for you. Remember that you are treasured in the eyes of God and that this is the only thing that truly matters.

4. Don't Burn the Bridge

I've seen myself give this advice plenty of times to my younger siblings and close friends (and honestly never thought I'd need it myself). Even if you find out later that a relationship with you and another person isn't going to work, it is super important not to burn that bridge.

Which before I go on let me digress and say please do not spread rumors about your ex-crush, 9 times out of 10 they will find out and you will end up looking bad (just from my experience as a bystander).

In my case I go to a high school (a private school at that) and since the person in question is in nearly all of my classes (and probably will be for the rest of my high school career) it would be stupid of me to go out of my way to ruin the relationship.

Do I know who he likes? Yes

Will I continue to be friends with him despite the fact that he doesn't like me? Yes

Don't betray their trust in you because of something they can't necessarily control. This is another one of those times where you have to accept the fact that you can't control the situation. Then again would you really want to force attraction between you and another person? Also, remember that this does not mean that things must "go back to the way they were" if you need space or just want to take it back down to from "besties" to "acquaintances", be my guest. This brings me to point number five.

5. Distance Yourself from the Person or Situation

If you happen to be a student or even a person in a small workplace, I totally understand how hard it can be to distance yourself from your (ex)-crush. Since I go to a small private school I dealt (and continue to deal) with my fair share of this because most of the girl's soccer team thought that my crush and I were dating, even though this was far from the truth. This doesn't even count the small things my friends did whenever I happened to be around him in the many classes we shared. To say the least, it was painful to go through, but I'm that much stronger because of this. I hate to say it, but if you are in a position like mine it is one of those few times where I had to force myself to "get over it". For me, that meant focusing on what really mattered: my relationship with God, my grades, family, soccer, and making sure I scored at least a 30 on the ACT. When you switch your focus to the things that truly matter in life it becomes that much easier to ignore the constant noise in the background.

To clarify: distance doesn't have to mean finding a distraction, sometimes it can mean taking a social media cleanse or just unfollowing (or ignoring) your (ex)-crush on a select few platforms.

Touching back on point #4, deciding not to burn a bridge does not mean that everything goes back to normal. If you feel the need to take a break from texting the person, feel free. In fact, it is probably healthier to stay away from them during the time you take to recover from the relationship. Just remember that there is a difference between distance and being petty.

[Word of advice needlessly unfollowing them from every social media platform is petty, but picking the two or three you would see (or be reminded) of them most on is distance.]

6. Treat Yourself

For me that's in the form of good TV, research, and writing. After finding out that my crush did not like me I proceeded to down a cup of green tea and try to get some sleep (at least before deciding that I was better off writing an article for Odyssey on the situation). Even if the relationship never got past Snapchat it is so important to treat yourself and make sure that you are still mentally okay. This is also where it is so important that you surround yourself with positive people and someone you can confide the situation too (without having to worry about them telling the person involved). I can't repeat enough how thankful I am for the friends who sat and listened to me go on-and-on about a relationship that never became more than a good friendship. Even if you have never been in this position, if a friend has confided in you information anything like mine, let me just thank you for them. Sometimes all it takes to get someone back to their cheery mood is a good laugh.

Hope you enjoyed my six tips to getting over unrequited love. I tried to inject some light humor, to lighten the information and hope that all of my points came across without being too much of a downer.