We're the one's that forget to text back; the ones that forget how to let someone hold the door open; the one's that have been through it all and only want the best now, but are too scared to actually go for it. Here are a couple of things you should know before dating the distant girl.

1. We’re actually very gentle.

I know it seems like we’re cold and distant (and sometimes we are), but we’re usually really gentle underneath the exterior we’ve managed to create for ourselves you just have to stick around to see it. If a distant girl lets her guard down around you, don’t take it for granted.

2. We’re independent AF.

We’ve learned to do things on our own and if we ask anything of you, know it took a lot to get there because we’ve learned to rely on ourselves for nearly everything. We know we don’t need anyone and we’ve survived alone for this long, so give us some time to get used to not having to be independent about everything.

3. We are distant.

It’s what we’re used to, so you can’t expect to waltz in and change that in a second. We’ll keep our distance for our own sake but we’ll also give you your space. We don’t like being suffocated and we’d hate to do that to the people in our lives. Sometimes it can be too much distance and we might need a reminder to come back, but we usually come back.

4. Our hearts are guarded.

The fictional fence is easier to climb than the walls of our heart, I assure you that. We’re not asking you to jump hurdles because we don’t expect you to. We fully expect people to not stick around and leave so our hearts are fully prepared for the letdown.

5. Opening up is hard AF.

There’s a lot of reasons why we ended up the way we did, so don’t expect us to open up as easily as anyone else you’ve had in your life. We only open up to people that are worth it and prove that they’ll stick around, so don’t be surprised if you leave before you ever find out anything about us.

6. We can be very affectionate.

We may seem really distant, but that doesn't mean we don't like being affectionate. We're just not used to it. We're not used to letting our guard down or letting someone hold us up.