With so much garbage floating around about "10 Ways To Get The Guy" or "Try These Three Things To Get Him To Notice You," girls these days are taking the dating thing into their own hands far too often. Everywhere you look there seems to be a post about bettering yourself and normally it's not just for you, it's also to get that boy to notice you. There is so much pressure in our society to find the perfect man and have the perfect relationship. And in addition to the stress of finding someone, there is also a lot of pressure to do it quick because being single is one of the worst things you can be apparently. So, with all this pressure and stress, with the articles, tips, and tricks, girls are doing x,y, and z to get the guys. They are sacrificing who they are and what they believe in just to find that perfect guy. But this needs to stop. Here are six things a girl should never do to get the guy:
1. Lower their standards.
I say this with caution because some girls are placing way too high of expectations on their future man. No one will ever live up to the dream fairy tale prince that most girls have created. Girls often expect guys to satisfy a hole in their hearts that they were never meant to fill. However, with that being said, girls should stop lowering their standards. Stop settling for a boy who only wants your body. Stop wasting your time on a boy who doesn't make you a priority, who flirts with other girls, or who disrespects you. Lowering your standards to earn the heart of a childish boy will only lead to a massive heartbreak later. Wait for a man who respects, cherishes, and loves you.
2. Pursue the guy.
Now, I know that some people might get angry when I say this, but girls shouldn't make the first move. I'm not talking about flirting. I'm talking about girls going out of their way to let a guy know she's interested. Men are designed for the chase. They need the pursuit because they need adventure and a woman to rescue. I am not trying to set up a damsel in distress type of situation, I just mean that guys like to pursue someone they desire. It is emasculating to take that power from them and place it in our own hands. So, while flirting is perfectly okay, stop stealing a man's thunder. And besides, if a man is not willing to pursue you, then he simply isn't worth your time.
3. Put the idea of themselves in a guy's head.
Right along with the point above, a girl should never have to manipulate a guy's brain to get him to like her. Don't go out of your way to try and get a guy to think about you a certain way. If the idea is not already there, you doing something to try and change that normally won't change the situation or result in you being loved in the way you desire to be.
4. Sacrifice their morals.
Regardless of who the guy is, if he truly cares for a girl he will never ask her to sacrifice her morals or values for him. Girls should never have to change what they stand for just to please a guy. If he asks you to sacrifice your morals for him, he cares more about himself and his own desires than he does about you. Wait for someone who's morals align with yours.
5. Change something about themselves.
6. Make themselves less.
Never make yourself less anything to please a guy. Don't dumb yourself down, workout less, study less, try less just to get a guy. If you are smart, own it. If you are confident and bold, own it. Don't make yourself less out of fear of intimidating a guy. The right one will be able to handle all of you and won't ask you to be less anything just to make himself feel better.
It all comes down to the fact that the right guy won't ask you to change and won't have to be convinced of your worth. So, rather than force your way in, wait for a man who pursues and loves you the way you deserve.
