Throughout our lives, we will encounter plenty of guys who waste our time and possibly break our hearts, or vice versa. After about three boyfriends, questions may swarm in your head of whether or not you'll find "the one" and also how will you know? But what many of us fail to realize is "the one" will not have those words written across their forehead. It's a feeling, not a thought, that will make you feel real butterflies inside, for the rest of your life.
1. Are his flaws a blessing or a curse?
We all have flaws as humans, but does his flaws make your cringe? Of course it may bother or annoy you, but can you see past it because he's worth it?
One determination of that is your thoughts in the moment his flaws surface. If he's still so cute after that disgusting cough you hate, he may be the one.
2. Hurt or heal?
The guy who hurts you most will never be the one. You cannot heal if you are continuously being hurt. The guy who brings joy to your heart, mostly good memories and even greater experiences is who should have all of your time.
Something you should always embed into yourself is learning to let go. If there are more tears and bad thoughts, you're wasting your time attempting to mold him into "the one."
3. Man of my dreams
When you close your eyes, imagine your future in 10 years. What do you see? If it's not happiness with him, you're in the wrong relationship. This shouldn't be an "I hope" situation. You should be able to believe he will still put a smile on your face after 10 years of waking up to one another. Don't hope he will be a better person by then, assure you are building a life with the right person now.
4. Do I really miss you?
This is pretty self-explanatory. During a trial period, try going days, maybe weeks if you're bold, without seeing or speaking to each other. You'll find out if you really miss that person and what you miss most.
You may not be able to go one day without freaking out, but that's OK. He may just be your addiction.
5. Has his goals become yours?
When his success becomes a part of your goals, there is a light at the end of the tunnel. The two of you should be able to talk about your dreams and goals together, talk about your future as one and merge your plans to be "the one" for each other.
