While living in the south I have met some truly lovely people. Some great sorority sisters, lasting friends from my major and great people I met studying abroad. But, coming from New York, I experienced culture shock my first few months here. I was so used to my friends speaking their mind around me, and being free to say what I thought around them. It's true that around your "ride or die" friends you still can, but the majority of the Southern population seems to hold back the their thoughts. Adjusting to my surroundings has required me to learn to hold my tongue, something that now only wine and a good hairdresser can undo. There are particular situations where holding your tongue is hard. Here are a few that every Northerner in the south can recognize.

5. Refusing to comment on politics

Especially when it comes down to a particular candidate who just keeps digging himself into a deeper wider hole, yet seems to be gaining more and more supporters. No, you're not a crazy liberal, just nod and smile as your roommate talks about the reality TV star's presidential rally.

4. Pursing your lips at vaguely racist comments

Acknowledging that the comment is wrong is good, but not wanting to start a massive disagreement is also fine. Just stuff your comment about ignorance deep down into your back pocket and save it for later.

3. Ignoring sexist comments

Being called sweetheart by a male / complete stranger is entirely disturbing to a Northerner. But you try to remember they were raised in a state where women were meant for a domestic life.

2. Cringing at being called "ma'am"

In the North, unless your over the age of 45, being called Ma'am is an insult. It pretty much implies that your old. Remembering that it is a sign of respect is hard when you're twisting your neck around, looking for the old women this person must be talking to.

1. Withholding comment on the big hair, big heels situation

Though this (hopefully) seems to be a fading trend, it's hard to remember how serious some still are about the "bigger the hair the closer to God" thing. Just don't point too openly, or you may start a conversation about why Northerners are obsessed with flat irons.

Truthfully, we love it here. Which is why we've happily adapted to our overly polite surroundings. If you're a new Northerner to the south, don't worry. You'll adjust in time and learn when to hold your tongue. You'll withhold your comments over the small issues while still speaking your mind on the issues that matter to you or your friends.