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5 Things You Shouldn't Say to Someone Who Lost A Parent

You are never over the death of a parent.

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5 Things You Shouldn't Say to Someone Who Lost A Parent
Hayley Owen

I hate my mom/dad

Appreciate your parents or go complain to someone else. Some of us would like to be upset at our parent for taking our cell phone away, or have them be “unfair” to us.

You were so young, your life didn’t alter that much.

Wrong. Your life is affected everyday for the rest of your life. I was 6 when my mother passed, and I have faint memories. But she never was there to help me get ready for prom. She wasn’t there to help me through my teenage problems. I will never have her there to help me get ready for my wedding, she will not be there for the birth of my child, she will not get to be the grandmother to my children.

I understand exactly how you feel, my (insert distant relative/friend here) died and it was really tough.

I am sorry for your lost, I really am. But no you don’t understand how I feel. Unless your parent has passed away, you have no idea the pain and sadness that it causes and how it affects everything you do every single day of your life.

It was so long ago; you should be over it by now.

Once again, NO. You are never over the death of a parent. Reread point number 2 and realize when you lose someone, it feels like you have lost them every single day because they are not there for simple things and big things in life.

Do not avoid us, or avoid talking about our parent because you don’t want to upset us.

More than likely, it feels good to be able to talk about our lost parent. It makes us feel like we know them a little bit more. It makes us feel like a little more normal. Don’t avoid hanging out with us because we are having a bad day and upset over it, more times than not, we just need someone to be supportive.

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