You learn the value of independence. Both emotional and financial. You learn that if he can’t handle you at your fodonga, he definitely doesn’t deserve you at your novela. You have been taught to be strong-willed, opinionated and fiercely independent maaaaybe with a dash of sass and/or attitude. But it makes you, you. You learn you create your own happiness.
You learn to love yourself. She taught you how to let go and walk away from things that were not meant to be. She’s shown you by example how to hold your head high and keep going even if it feels like the whole world is against you. You learn failures, bad grades, and heartaches do not define you as a person and she taught you how to get back up from the rejections and setbacks with grace… and that is what truly defines you.
You learn how to be a chingona. Being a chingona means to be a boss or your own boss. You learn to value the meaning of independence and the struggle she endured to bless you with that privilege. You know that you don’t need anyone else to dictate your successes for you. You learn to walk with your head, heels, and hair up high.
You learn how to think not what to think. You didn’t just memorize what you read about, instead she taught you to question it and form your own opinions. You learn to gather information from as many sources as you can and evaluate your own conclusion. She taught you to always be willing to learn and change your mind, you also learn it’s okay to be wrong sometimes and even to fail. It’s how you learn.
You learn to never take anything for granted. You learn that your mother is strong because of all the sacrifices and adversities she has gone through, and you learn to never take anything with a grain of salt. You learn to work hard for what you want but still always remember to count your blessings including that you can’t thank God enough every day for blessing you with a fighter, baker, driver, fashion adviser, personal cheerleader, does-it-all superhero, best friend for a mother.
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1. You get excited when the parents purchase season passes to the pool.
If the kids get a pool pass, so do you. It's not exactly a leisurely swim when you have to keep an eye on the kids, but it's a good opportunity to work on your tan and get out of the house. Plus, a day at the pool tires out the kids.
2. You've become friends with the stay-at-home moms in town.
You may just be the nanny, but that doesn't stop the other moms from wanting to include you in their gossip sessions or carpool rotations.
3. You get a chance to eat "kid foods" again.
Dinosaur shaped chicken nuggets, character mac & cheese, you name it.
4. You've traded in your cute purse for a large tote bag.
The only type of bag that can hold a plethora of snacks, sand toys, and extra clothes for the kids to change into after they swim.
5. You have at least one car seat in your backseat.
You've been given the extra booster seat for running errands with the kids during the week. Next thing you know, it's Saturday night and your friends are laughing over the crammed backseat, car seat and all.
6. Their nap time is your happy time.
If you can somehow manage to get all the kids napping at the same time, major props to you. Now you can enjoy a few hours to yourself (or maybe even take a nap of your own!).
7. Lunch time can be a disaster.
When they can't agree on a meal or when you don't make it exactly like their mom does...
8. You have to play the same board games repeatedly.
"Sure, we can play Monopoly again for the hundredth time in a row," said no sane person ever.9. You catch yourself using the same lines your parents once told you.
When you ask them to clean their room and they ask "why?!" you can finally reply with "because I said so," just like your mom would say to you.
10. Your "mom-mode" kicks in at times.
Forcing the kids to wear sunscreen while they play outside is such a motherly thing to do, and you love it.
11. Your heart melts a little when they do something cute.
And then you're reminded why you have the best summer job in the world and wouldn't trade it for anything.
1. "Wow, this class is really boring."
Well of course it is, or you wouldn't be daydreaming.
2. "If this wasn't a General Education Requirement, I would've dropped this class already."
Everyone in this room would have dropped the class already.
3. "That kid is sleeping, I wonder if the Professor would notice if I closed my eyes..."
Maybe just for three seconds...
4. "I'm really hungry."
What they are serving in the dining hall...I hope it's mac and cheese.
5. "Can I be excused for the rest of my life?"
OK just kidding, but seriously, can I leave now?
6. "Where are we on the notes?"
Once you are lost on the notes in a lecture class, there is no turning back. Might as well go back to daydreaming about how you are a failure.
7. "Is she/he still talking about this slide?"
Yeah, it's been 10 minutes on one slide of the presentation and yeah, she/he will continue for another three.
8. "What am I going to do this weekend?"
Well I could go to that movie night on campus, or go out to dinner with friends -- anything but doing the homework for this class.
9. "Why do I even need this class?"
Many classes have me asking this question...I need about 15 minutes to really find the answer to my great question.
10. "Is anyone even paying attention?"
Everyone looks like zombies shaking their heads to look like they are listening, and I know that kid next to me is drooling so he is definitely not paying attention. There goes my chance to catching up on the notes -- back to day dreaming.
As a Puerto Rican born in Ohio who has a very Puerto Rican family, I can tell you that there are also things that you shouldn’t say to us. Here are the most common no-no’s that have been said to Puerto Ricans.
1. “Oh, so you/your family are immigrants!”
Puerto Rico is not an independent country. It is one of a few United States territories that have their own local government but abide by U.S. law and U.S. leaders. Everyone on that island is a U.S. citizen so no, my family members are not immigrants.
2. “Is Puerto Rico near Mexico?”
Okay, Puerto Rico is a Caribbean island in, you guessed it, the Caribbean Sea along with a bunch of other islands. Each of those islands has a unique culture and history so why do you always assume all Latin nations/territories are near or associated with Mexico?
3. “Do you speak Puerto Rican?”
Even though Puerto Rico has its own slang, there is no such thing as a language called “Puerto Rican.” Puerto Ricans speak Spanish. Period.
4. “You look too light/dark to be Puerto Rican.”
This comment irritates me to no end. Puerto Ricans- and Latinos, for that matter- are extremely diverse. Our descendant range from the Spanish conquistadors to the indigenous groups who lived before colonization to the African slaves who were brought to the region. Not all of us fit the stereotypical mold of appearance.
5. “Do I need my passport to go to Puerto Rico?”
Again, Puerto Rico is a U.S. territory not a country, therefore, you don’t need a passport to go there.
6. “Geez, you are obsessed with your flag. We get it, you’re Puerto Rican.”
Since when was it a bad thing to show pride towards one’s heritage? Last time I checked, no one was making fun of patriotic folks who waves the stars and stripes of the U.S. flag.
7. “Why are you so loud?”
We are just loud people. If you don’t like it, don’t talk to us.
8. “So does your family know English?”
Puerto Ricans are taught Spanish and English. Both are the official languages. Technically, Spanish is the first language of many Puerto Ricans on the island, but they understand and speak English. In fact, there are schools on the island that teach in English.
9. “Oh my god, Puerto Ricans are so spicy.”
This is an annoying stereotype that also plagues much of the Latino community. We can be sassy, but that’s just an individual personality trait that doesn’t apply to everyone.
10. “So did you eat a lot of tacos?”
Let’s see… did I grow up eating food from Mexico? No, because my family is Puerto Rican, not Mexican. Puerto Rico has its own cuisines. I grew up eating Puerto Rican food. Stop merging cultures.
11. “Are you Mexican?”
No. Stop. Not every Latino is Mexican. Mexicans are Mexicans, Puerto Ricans are Puerto Rican, and so on. Do not be that person.
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