Through the time that I’ve used Tinder, I’ve learned a few tricks on how to be successful in the world of online dating. How do I define “successful?” A successful date to me is one where the man was not a total creep or pervert, we had things to talk about, and I didn’t end up dead in a dumpster somewhere. That last bit is a quote from my mother whose biggest fear is me being murdered on a date. Safety is a huge concern for a lot of people who want to try Tinder. I am a pretty cautious person, so I came up with these rules for myself when going on Tinder dates.
1. Never give out your phone number.
This one seemed like common sense to me but it’s very common for people to give out their phone numbers on Tinder. I would suggest refraining from this just because it creates a boundary between you and the person on the other side of that screen. The reality is that you don’t really know to whom you're talking. They have made very successful television shows off of this very idea! Plus, this leaves you in the power position. If a man asks for my number, I always tell them that I don’t give it out until I’ve met someone at least once. If they get frustrated with me about it, then I know it’s not going to work out between us because if they get frustrated about a phone number who knows what they will get mad at me about down the line.
2. Never give out your Snapchat username
Or any kind of social media usernames for that matter. Some people think that social media isn’t that big of a deal, but trust me on this one. You will get a lot less unwanted pictures of genitalia this way and a lot fewer people asking for pictures of your genitalia. But if you’re into that then go ahead!
3. Always meet in the middle of the day
I usually go a little farther than that and don’t meet the person at all if they want to meet after dark. It just sends a very creepy vibe to me. Plus studies show that it’s easier to be seen and to see in the light. So if you decide to meet this person, meet during the day in a well-lit space.
4. Always meet in a public space
And I mean, super public. Think a coffee shop or ice cream parlor. The following are no-no’s for meeting places:
- A parking lot
- A hotel room
- Behind a Wal-Mart
- In a Wal-Mart in general (what kind of date is that?!?!)
- In a ditch
- At their house
- In their car
I’m sure you get the idea.
Also, I feel like this is common sense but don't get in a car with a stranger on your first date. That's a very bad idea. Just, don't do it.
5. Tell a friend where your date is.
This is one that some people don’t agree with me on because they feel embarrassed about having Tinder and don’t want their friends to know that they are on Tinder. If they’re going to judge you for having Tinder then they aren’t really your friends. Just send a simple text to one or more of your friends and tell them your location. I would also recommend having them text you in an hour or two to make sure you’re doing well.
These 5 rules are ones that I have created through my own experiences and are the best way to have a fun and safe Tinder date.
