Do you often find yourself attracting men that don't have your best interest? Why is it that some women have all the luck, leaving the rest of us with the bad pool of guys? Below are five reasons you keep attracting all of the wrong people.
1. You’re afraid of being alone.
Women too often stay with men who mistreat them simply because they feel it is better than being alone. They would rather subject themselves to various forms of abuse than be independent. If you find that you struggle with being single, this is where friends and family play a crucial role in our lives. Although often undermined, companionship is just as valuable as a romantic relationship.
Additionally, feeling lonely is never a justified reason to go back to someone that does not deserve you, even if your emotions tell you otherwise. It is important to understand that the pain we experience after a break up is not necessarily a bad thing, rather, it is a catalyst for change. Instead, choose to surround yourself with your loved ones and people who appreciate you.
2. You are a creature of habit.
We are often attracted to people that possess qualities that are familiar to us. A man could resemble an ex you used to date, or even a close family member. Maybe you were in an abusive relationship, and although those red flags are not ideal, you may continue to date people of this type because it is a comfortable and familiar pattern to you.
If this is the case, self-awareness is key. You can become good at stopping yourself in your tracks whenever you find yourself attracted to these personality types, and recall the reasons why they are ultimately not good partners.
3. You are afraid of committing.
Sometimes women go for the wrong guys because they themselves have commitment issues. A guy that is not willing to commit himself fully to you is quite convenient for a woman that is afraid of committing.
4. You are unconsciously, yet deliberately manifesting your fears.
Ironically, we sometimes manifest our deepest fears when dating or in a relationship without even knowing it. This is because you actually end up looking for these qualities in men.
For example, if you are deeply afraid of being cheated on, you will look for any signs from your man that validate that fear. You may end up unconsciously choosing men that will ultimately cheat on you for this very reason. Reoccurring thoughts usually manifest themselves in some way, and unfortunately, our innermost fears can do the same.
5. We accept the treatment we think we deserve.
Perhaps the most disturbing of reasons why women choose the wrong guys is because they don't feel they deserve better.
It's not like only some women go on dates with the wrong guys. The reality is, most women active in the dating world go on a bad date from time to time. The difference is that a high-value woman will not see a guy again when she picks up on warning signs, where as a low-value woman continues to date the bad guys.
If you find that this is something you struggle with, remember how important it is that you uphold yourself to a higher standard. No man is worth undergoing any sort of disrespect, so get good at cutting off men that do not deserve you.
