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5 Golden Rules to Finding Your Perfect Home

The guide to surviving recruitment.

Gabrielle Silberman

Sep 07, 2016

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5 Golden Rules to Finding Your Perfect Home

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1. Be yourself

There is nothing more important than being yourself. Recruitment is the time to take off the day-to-day masks you show to your family, school friends, and professors. It's time to be the real you and to be vulnerable. The you when know one else is looking. The way you present yourself to each chapter can really make or break your sorority life experience. If you portray one side of yourself you will only be able to be show that side or behave that one-way. Your sisters would never know the real you and it would probably tear you up inside.

2. Have an open mind

Having your eye on a single chapter you want to join before you start recruitment isn't the worst thing in the world, but it also isn't the best. The best way to take on recruitment is with an open mind. You can be surprised what having an open mind can do for you. Two "bad" conversations in a chapter can be replaced with three other great conversations and or connections later in the week. Having an open mind means joining a chapter for the right reasons. Ruling out chapters because of their physical house is not going to get you anywhere. People join people. People do not join four walls and a roof. And legacies do not think I forgot about you. You do not have to feel pressured into joining a chapter in which your family is or was in. This could be your time to start your own legacy and leave your mark.

3. Trust the process

Trust the process. Trust the process. Trust the process. These three little words may seem hard to comprehend because there is no secret formula to ending up in your perfect home because the process is hard, exhausting, and painful. If you keep pushing through the week it will all be worth it. All of the blisters, the tears, and the sweat. It will all be worth it, when your running home on bid day with all of your new sisters. Yes, the week may not go as you planned but the chapters who invited you back saw something so special in you that they didn't want to let you go.

4. Don't give in to other's opinions

Everyone is different, which is why there isn't just one single sorority. Just be because you heard another women or potential new member say they don't like "blank" chapter doesn't mean you shouldn't too. Throw out all the previous stereotypes and preconceived notions because your own opinion is the only one that matters. You may miss a great opportunity going through recruitment listening to what other people say. You are joining this chapter for the rest of your collegiate years, not anyone else .

5. Know your value

You are a strong, beautiful, and independent woman. Recruitment does not define you. You define you. Being in a sorority is not for everyone and that is okay. Do not let the process belittle you. Do not take it personal. In the end, if a chapter does release you, it is their loss. You deserve the best because you are the best. You deserve individuals who will build you up and not tear you down. And do not let anyone tell you differently.

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