Breakups suck. Everyone has gone through a breakup at least once or twice in their life, but if you're like me then you are going through one right now. It has been a few weeks of heightened emotions, ranging from sad to angry to o.k. and back to sad again. This isn't my first breakup and when I was thinking about it I realized there are a few things that you need at this time. So here are my five essentials for going through a break-up.
1. Music
One of the most important things when dealing with the emotions you are feeling is music. You need at least two playlists, one for when you are really sad and need a good cry and another one for getting your mind off of things and dancing around in your room. Music can really affect your mood and help you either face the sadness of losing someone you loved or move on from them by getting them off of your mind.
2. Movies & Ice Cream
This may sound like two things but it counts as one because you need both, usually at the same time, when going through the pain of a breakup. Pick out some movies to help you move on--I like to watch movies about breakups because it reminds me that breakups happen a lot and usually for a reason. Here are my suggestions: "Comet," "Eternal Sunshine of The Spotless Mind," "500 Days of Summer," "Blue Jay" and "6 Years". Grab the ice cream and get ready to feel many feels.
3. A Best Friend
Going through a breakup makes you feel extremely lonely so it's important that you remember your friends and utilize them. Call them over, vent and go out and do something fun. This will help get your mind off the person who broke your heart while also reminding you that you're not alone.
4. A Day To Think
After being in a relationship for a while sometimes you start to depend on the other person. It's hard to go through a breakup without feeling like you can't do anything without the other person, but that is simply not true. Go out and see a movie alone or go for a walk--prove to yourself that you can do things alone. You should also take this time to think about what your life will be without the other person. What are your goals? What is your next move?
5. A Good Book
Some people aren't readers but I think a book can heal your soul when you feel the sadness of a breakup. Usually when I'm feeling down or confused I turn to literature. Words can really help you through those hardcore emotions and the questions: Will I ever find love? Am I good enough? What is wrong with me? I recommend "Milk and Honey" by Rupi Kaur or "The Bell Jar" by Sylvia Plath.
Breakups are hard but they're temporary. Everyone is different so share your music, movie or book recommendations below. Just remember that everything happens for a reason even though it sucks, one day it won't. (Enjoy these Barbie pictures I took myself because Barbie never goes through breakups.)
