Being the single friend actually sucks at times.
At some point in our life, we have experienced a time when everyone seems to be in relationships except for you. Sometimes its great being single, but sometimes is actually really sucky being single.
Here are 5 reasons why being the single friend of the group actually sucks:
1. It is nearly impossible to hangout with any of your friends without them mentioning something about their significant other.
Regardless of the promises they make about not talking about boyfriends or significant others, they always get brought up. It can't be avoided. Being single means that we have to hear about all the drama that comes with being in a relationship. Don't get me wrong, I'm happy they're happy, but I don't really need to hear about your latest argument or the drama in the other person's life.
2. They question the guy(s) you are talking too with a disapproval tone.
Being single means we get to enjoy time to ourselves and learn about ourselves. Sometimes that means talking to different types of guys to see what we like. I can't count how many times I've mentioned a guy to my friends and give a little detail about him and days/weeks later they seemed surprised I'm still talking to that guy. I then get a disapproval on the type of guy he is. As hard as this is to say, sometimes I have to make the mistake of choosing the wrong guy by myself.
3. They never want to go out with you; you’re too wild for them.
It's hard to have a girls night or in general ask the girls to hangout. When people are in relationships they suddenly become an old couple that doesn't want to do anything but stay in and be cozy. Don't get me wrong, that actually sounds great, but we're young. We are supposed to go out and have fun. Just suck up a night and come out with me. Let me get drunk and make bad decisions!
4. They invite you to hangout with them and their significant other promising that it won’t be awkward, but it always is.
There have been many times when it is clearly obvious that I am third wheeling. Sure, I love spending time with my best friends and getting to know their significant other, but please put the love and affection you have for each other on hold. I mean, I am single and spend many, many nights alone. I also would rather not be placed between you guys; that just makes it more obvious that you're trying to not make me feel uncomfortable, which actually makes me more uncomfortable.
5.They try to make you feel better by saying the right guy will come along.
Being in a relationship has them believing in true love. They are determined that the right guy is out there and will be heading my way soon. They can almost promise is. I like the support, but I don't think I'm ready for that. I understand that they found the right man for them, but I haven't. I need to just be me and figure out the type of person I am, so that way when I do find Mr. Right I know it's the real deal. It also hurts hearing them say this, almost as if they are trying to find an excuse for why past guys haven't worked out. I don't need to be reminded that I'm alone, I already know that!
I hate to be negative on being single, but there are downfalls. One downfall is being the only single one in the group of friends.
