1. He's cheating on you.
As easy as it seems to leave a man who cheats, many women stay with their boyfriends while they cheat, and even worse, they make excuses for the hurtful and dishonest act. Unless you and your boyfriend are in an open relationship, you should never consider staying with someone who thinks it's okay to lay their lips (and who knows what else) on anyone else but you. Take your stand and leave, because you should be the sole person he devotes himself too. If he doesn't see your worth, then he obviously doesn't deserve to have the privilege of your company. Once a cheater, always a cheater. Who wants to stay with that?
2. He's hitting you.
I'm sure many of you are reading this and thinking, "Well why doesn't she just leave then, it can't be that hard?" But surprisingly, there are plenty of women who continue to stay with their boyfriends while he remains the abuser. It doesn't matter how much he claims to love you, and want you, and can't be without you, and so on. Real men don't hit girls, cowards do. In fact, any respectful man should know from a very young age that hitting girls is a big no no. Your man should treat your body with respect at all times. And trust me, ladies, once the violence starts, it only gets worse. Get out of it while you can. I promise you won't regret it.
3. He's lazy.
Nobody wants to be with an unmotivated couch potato. Ambition and motivation are sexy, whether it's working, going to school, traveling, or building something, surround yourself with someone who displays passion and energy for life. A relationship is an adventure, and requires time and effort on both parts, but it won't work when one party is too busy sleeping or playing video games or not doing anything productive with his life. Your partner should be taking you out to dinner, spending quality time with you, putting the extra effort in those little things and most importantly, make you happy.
4. He's an asshole.
Let's face it, there are a lot of guys out there who are assholes. There are also many nice and respectful guys, who can be assholes on a blue moon (those are the guys you wanna stick with). Regardless, all guys have it within them to be an asshole, whether it's sometimes, or all the time. Likewise, a guy with a big ego is probably one of the biggest turnoffs for women. Confidence is attractive, not cockiness. There is also nothing more unattractive then a guy who doesn't respect women for herself and for her body. A disrespectful guy doesn't have respect for himself, and it's a complete waste of time dating a douchebag.
5. He doesn't put in the effort.
Healthy relationships are when two people make 100 percent, as in 100 percent of the effort, time, love, communication and compromise. Find someone who will go the extra mile for you, randomly surprise you, bring you tea when you're sick and take you out to fun places to show you off to his friends and the world. These are the guys who give it their all -- their 100 percent. As much as you may feel lucky to have the privilege of dating your man, the feeling should be mutual because women need to be reminded of the wonderful things that they have to offer others, especially their significant other.
For my beautiful cousin.
