I am the queen of self-doubt. I consistently look down on myself all because I want to grow to be the best version of myself I can be. What I’ve come to realize is that speaking down to myself and believing in lies about who I am only makes me upset and sap the motivation to grow. The more I motivate myself positively, the more I can see my life and state of mind improve. If you find yourself struggling with your self-worth, see if you have accepted any of these statements about yourself and begin to speak some truth over yourself.
1. I’m never going to change.
Do you understand how much death you speak over yourself when you believe this? No one person is perfect by any means, but you have an immense amount of power and drive to make changes in your life. Just because you see a pattern in your life that you don’t like doesn’t mean you can’t break the cycle. You have every ability to grow and mold into the person you want to be as long as you believe in yourself.
2. I don’t deserve to be loved.
You are an incredibly unique person who has talents, heart and personality that is worth being loved. I don’t care what you’ve done, where you’ve been or what your biggest regrets are. You are worthy of being loved strictly because of who you are. If someone doesn't love you, so what. You're pretty awesome and it's their loss for not seeing it!
3. I don’t do anything right.
Have you ever made someone smile? Have you received a good grade on a tough exam? Have you done something that has made yourself happy? No one is a complete failure. It’s time to evaluate your life and look at the list of negatives you find and say to yourself, “What I’ve done is not who I am.” Don’t focus on the big mess ups of life and begin looking at the little victories because I promise you, they exist.
4. I’m not ________ enough.
If you find yourself filling in that blank with anything I need you to know that you are a phenomenal person. The feeling of not being enough comes around when we compare ourselves to others. I’m not strong enough because his muscles are bigger than mine. I’m not pretty enough because she’s thinner than me. It’s all garbage. The only person you should compare yourself to is the person you were yesterday so you can grow. Your journey is just that...yours and no one else's.
It’s time for you to believe in yourself. No matter your age, gender, background or hurts you can make a new choice. Choose the view yourself for all the amazing traits you possess. Choose to look at yourself daily and speak lovingly to the mirror. Commit to greatness and grace. Push yourself to new heights while understanding that you will slip and fall. When those times come forgive yourself, stand back up and keep climbing until you reach the mountain peak. The view from the top is glorious.
