Just because you have gone back to your everyday life doesn’t mean I have

I understand that life goes on and the world doesn’t stop for anyone, but please be mindful of the fact that just because time has passed and you have learned to deal with the loss doesn’t mean I have. After losing a parent, someone who was so essential to your everyday life, it isn’t as easy to catch your bearings and adjust to this “new normal” everyone speaks about.

Stop belittling my pain

It really doesn’t help when I go out and people are like “Don’t think about it.” or “You need to get over it.” How do you expect me to get over it and not think about something so traumatic that happened to me? Also, telling me that I had “So much time with him.” when in reality I didn't. I didn’t have enough time with him. I only had 19 years. I have my whole life ahead of me and he won’t even be here to see it.

I will have days where I just completely lose it

Some days for no absolutely no reason I will completely shut down, don’t take it personally. Sometimes there is no rhyme or reason for feeling the way I do. I will go through the phases of anger, sadness, happiness, and most of all, anxiety. Just give me my space.

It’s not easy for me when you tell me how much you hate your parents

I would give anything to have my parent with me. You have absolutely no idea how lucky you are that you have one and to tell someone who lost his or her parent that you hate yours isn’t easy to hear. To be able to fight with our parent is something we dream of doing. Trust me when I say you may hate them now, but you wont realize how much you love them till they’re gone.