Committing to someone and investing in a relationship can be one of the utmost rewarding decisions you make. In fact, individuals tend to crave being in a relationship or investing in someone. However, there are some common mistakes individuals usually make, and not necessarily in the relationship itself. Below are several don'ts.
1. Don’t ignore your friends/family.
This is arguably the most important thing not to do when you’re in a relationship. Remember the people in your life that have been there all along, likely before you met the person you’re currently dating. Also keep in mind that romantic relationships may end, and you don’t want to lose your friendships along the way.
2. Don’t let your relationship consume you.
Don’t intend to spend every second with your significant other. Not only is spending time with family/friends important to maintain key relationships (as mentioned in #1), but it has been proven that alone time is necessary sometimes. It’s too often that individuals feel suffocated or overwhelmed in romantic relationships, and this is partly because of spending too much time together.
3. Don’t rush things.
Obviously no one knows how you truly feel and can dictate the pace of your relationship, however, it is very common for individuals to rush, not only into a relationship, but also within the relationship itself, for the wrong reasons. It is not absolutely necessary to run into a relationship, simply because you feel lonely or like the idea of being in a relationship. Many relationships, including engagements and even marriages, end abruptly due to rushing from the start. Take your time.
4. Don’t overthink/overanalyze
Looking back, one main problem many individuals realize they have is overthinking or overanalyzing a situation. For example, overanalyzing how long an individual takes to text/call back or overthinking how invested an individual is in them. These situations are unnecessary and tend to lead to unhappiness or create problems that don’t truly exist. Take things day by day and go with the flow.