In this day and age, the definition of dating has changed. Instead of dating someone, you “talk” to him for a long time until you either tell him that you like them and something happens, or you just stop talking to him all together. I, fortunately for you, have experienced this just enough to give you a step-by-step list of exactly what happens during the “talking” stage. All of this is explained with the help of Bridget Jones, of course.

Excitement:

• When you first start talking to someone, you experience butterflies in your stomach every time they text or talk to you. Suddenly, everything you have learned about how to speak the English language goes out the window, and you use words like “uh” and “um” as means of communication. If you are like me, your face will become as red as Bridget’s cheeks any time they walk by you.

Fear:

• The fear can sink in at any moment. However, it normally occurs when you start talking to him on a regular basis. He will ask you things like: “how was your day?” “ Did you finish watching that episode of___________?” Then, the fear starts making a permanent home in your stomach where the butterflies used to be. You start wondering if he’s just talking to you because he is bored, or if he’s talking to you because he’s interested. Hopefully, it’s both. Think of this step as Bridget Jones’ face when she watches herself slide down the fire pole over and over.

Confusion:

In the words of the oh so wise (I write with sarcasm) Justin Bieber, “What do you mean?” Just as you have convinced yourself that this fear is normal and he doesn’t like you, he sends you a text like: “I’m don’t know.” In response to “what is happening here?” How do you handle it? Much like Bridget Jones’ relationship with her boss, just go with it.

Acceptance:

At this stage, one of two things will happen: 1) He’ll admit that he likes you and you guys will hang out. 2) He will change the subject and nothing will happen. If the second thing happens, you should ask yourself “What would Bridget Jones do?”

Well, my friends, she would roll herself up in a blanket, and eat ice-cream.

Unfortunately, ladies, there is nothing that we can do about this stage. It comes and it goes. When it comes, hopefully it stays. Eventually you will find your own Mr. Darcy who will like you just as you are. You just have to give it time.