Long distance relationships are hard in all aspects with lovers, family, and friends and it take dedication and time to always allow those relationships to continue to grow. I have the pleasure of being in the hardest long distance relationship I have ever had to endure (mind you this has been my only long distance relationship and I would prefer to not have to do this with many people). My long distance relationship includes my sister and best friends living in California while I am still in Jersey. Though I’m so proud of her and wish I could be right with her as she takes on the West Coast (best coast, by the way), that just is not the case at the moment, but there’s a few things I miss with her not living just a floor above me in our childhood home. They really do mean it when they say you don’t know what you have until it’s gone.

1. Not having a second closet to choose from
   1. All those days where you seem to have no clothes, having a sister is basically having a second closet where you can choose from all their clothes when you are in desperate need of another black dress that you so clearly have. Now that my sister lives so far away I scrounge just to not wear the same things twice (I know what you’re thinking – THE STRUGGLE IS REAL).
      • i.(PSA – using Janelle’s clothes I did have to sign my life away to make sure I didn’t ruin them)
2. Not having someone to annoy at all times
   1. Yea, I annoy my mom, but the feeling of annoying your big sis for no reason is the best. Whether she wasn’t feeling it or just played the game right back, it’s the playful fights that I miss the most.
3. Someone having your back at all times
   1. I know even from California, my sister still has my back, but when she lived with us – I always had a lawyer. My sister would help me get out of a murder if she could (except that one time when she hid in a shed, but that’s a story for a different day). Basically, she’d give her left limb to get me out of trouble.
4. Someone to hang out with 24/7
   1. This is probably what I miss the most about having my sister not live with me is always having a friend all the time that you could just lay with and make stupid snap chats with and just laugh for no reason was the best feeling, I miss the Sunday’s where we would just lay in my parents bed and take up all the room and be lazy and you would make fun of me for crying over Selena’s death even though I’ve seen the movie 500 times.

You really don’t know how much you miss someone until they truly aren’t in arms reach anymore and even though we both live busy lives there is not day where I’m not thinking of my big sis and that I’m so so so proud of her.