As a rising sophomore at a private university in the heart of Washington, D.C., and a native to the "city that never sleeps", I have had my fare share of nightlife in the last few years. Since attending college, I have also made incredible friends with all different backgrounds and personality types. While my friends know I will be the first to encourage them to "rally" (get out of bed and come to an event no matter how tired they may be), they also know that I am just as okay with staying in with them and having a great time doing nothing at all.
Being outgoing and experiencing all your city or town has to offer is not only fun when you are with your friends, but it is also a great way to network and meet interesting people. However, many people don't seem to see it this way. More often than ever before, I hear the term "Party Girl" thrown around and used to describe girls who like to go out. While it is not always meant in a negative way, it has developed negative connotations that are, quite frankly, completely false and stereotypical.
In 2015, locking ourselves in our homes once it becomes dark outside is just not a viable option for women. Recent stories, such as this injustice in a NYC rape case, prove that women who enjoy a night out and a couple drinks are still labeled as "Party Girls" and often endure slut-shaming and victim blamingin cases of sexual assault. For this reason, I've decided to crush some of the biggest myths.
Myth 1 - Party Girls Don't Care About Academics
This is one of the most common stereotypes of so-called "party girls" in college. The truth is, the girls who go out multiple times a week are also usually the girls who finished their homework the night it was assigned (as opposed to the night before it is due) and began studying for their exams weeks in advance. These are the girls that simply get sh*t done. They are great at balancing work and play, and are smart enough to plan ahead in order to enjoy themselves on the weekend.
Myth 2 - Party Girls Always Go Hard
People seem to think that girls who manage to go out so often must be wild and out of control when they do so. Thanks mostly to reality T.V., you seldom hear "party girl" and picture someone who can handle themselves under the influence of alcohol. However, anyone who has ever been educated on alcohol consumption knows that it is actually much safer to drink moderately a few days in one week than to binge drink so much in one night that you end up sick or passed out. The girls you see out so often are able to keep up such stamina because they rarely get drunk. They may have a couple drinks to loosen up, but they know their limits and can still handle any serious situation and make good choices.
Myth 3 - Party Girls Don't Leave The Party Alone
Again, thanks to MTV reality shows like The Jersey Shore and The Real World, my generation has grown up with the idea that their goal for a night out should be to go home with someone. Speaking on behalf of all the "party girls" I know, 99 percent of the time our goal is as boring as wanting to get dressed up with our friends, hear throwback songs, make fun of each others dance moves, and end the night with a 3 a.m. pizza -- because pizza always tastes better at 3 a.m. It is absurd to me that some people judge others for going out often and truly believe it is directly connected to sleeping around (both for men and women). While I will admit college kids are no strangers to one night stands, the idea that one night stands are mostly exclusive to the party crowd is a generalization.
Myth 4 - Party Girls Are Superficial
While this myth is more often reflected by television and movies than in real life, it is still worth acknowledging. Yes, superficial girls (and guys!) absolutely exist. They exist in your hometown, they exist in college, and they exist in the work world. However, going out doesn't make you a superficial person. Bars/clubs/parties have just as diverse crowds of people as anywhere else. Some people have more fun staying in, some have more fun going out. To each his own; stop judging each other!
So unfortunately, Sia's lyrics claiming "Party girls don't get hurt" are false; party girls are just like everyone else.