I am no expert nor do I have any authority to give advice on life; my life is as much of a train wreck as any other college student’s. But through a couple bumpy semesters, I realized what was keeping me so stressed out and unhappy. So, to anyone else in a rut, here are a few things that are probably standing in your way from being happy or productive.

1. Judgement

In our society, we are often so quick to comment on other people’s appearance, actions, and opinions, especially when they are different from our own. It’s like we walk through life with our noses up in the air, scoffing at other people’s mistakes and misdoings. We get so busy focusing on everyone else around us instead of focusing on our priority, ourselves.

2. Grudges

You know that expression, “a chip on your shoulder?” Well, it can become as big as a boulder if you don’t brush it off. Holding onto resentment for someone only hurts you, not them. Just like judgement, grudges will steal your attention and energy. So just let it go, forgive and forget, and move along.