With being a somewhat new 21-year-old, there are some things that I’ve learned and some things I struggle with still understanding however, with every year comes a new challenge and with every challenge a great lesson. Each has given me the opportunity to make every year count and every lesson to make a difference in my life.

1. Learning how to put all your effort into getting a degree can lead you to the thoughts that then turn to doubts and the common question of “do I really want to do this” “is this really my calling in life” occur. I’m currently unsure of how to answer these questions but I can say that it takes time and a lot of soul searching to find out the answer for you. Many people choose a job that allows them to make a good sum of money and to be able to live comfortably. That’s great but that won’t always make a difference in the world or bring you true satisfaction in life. What I’ve had to ask myself when it comes to my career goals is this, will I impact a life or somehow change the world or will I leave a legacy for my children or one the world can benefit from. These questions have led me to believe there is more to life than a good check and a comfortable life.

2. Discovering how to assimilate in your family as a young adult. Your whole life you might have grown up being the baby in the family like me or as every parent calls their young “the child”. Those things you are and probably will always be to your family. The challenge comes in when you are now an adult and looking to be viewed and treated like one in your family. Yes, you want to be taken seriously and yes you want your opinions to be valued as well. Although you may always be the “baby” of the family, you are no longer a child so finding your new place can be difficult.

3. Learning how to take on adult responsibilities. I think often times it can be difficult at first to adjust to doing many things for yourself that your parents used to do for you. Maybe that involves paying your own bills, building your own credit, doing your own grocery shopping, or making your own doctor’s appointments. I think when turning 21 not only do you want to take on your responsibilities/may be forced to, but that is also what is expected of you by society. I am learning that it is okay to not always have your crap together but it is important to make active choices to gain independence. No adult is perfect so don’t put that pressure on yourself, who needs perfection anyway just be your best you and the rest will follow.