3 different boyfriends in one year: 2 months, 4 months, and I started a relationship with my current boyfriend, who I have been with for 2 1/2 years. 3 completely different personalities that entirely shaped my perspective on life, myself, and relationships. And taught me these 10 important lessons:
1. Relationships are great, until you are in one with the wrong person
GiphyTrust me, relationships are the absolute best and a source of happiness. But if you are in the relationship with the wrong person, it honestly is the worse thing ever.
2. Take risks
GiphyWe often do not do something because we are afraid of the outcome, but taking risks in life and love are important. With my current boyfriend of 2 1/2 years, I actually made the first move to start a relationship and it worked out in the end.
3. Time is not an indicator of the strength of the relationship
GiphyTime is only a number, not an indicator of someone's feelings or longevity of their relationship.
4. Success is the best revenge
GiphyAfter a rough breakup, it is easy to want to get revenge on the person. However, I learned that having success while your ex does not is the best revenge. Nobody can ever take away or tear down your success.
5. Breakups with the family are sometimes worse than with the actual person
GiphyHonestly, sometimes we get more attached to our significant other's family than the actual person. Thus, sometimes when you break up with someone you actually miss their family more than them. Oops.
6. Red flags should never be ignored
GiphyIf there are red flags in a new relationship, then get out! I learned the hard way that staying in a relationship, despite red flags, only leads to a broken relationship.
7. Never change for anyone
GiphyBe your authentic self and if someone wants you to change, never do. Be with someone who loves you just the way you are!
8. Not everyone has to be friends
GiphyNot every breakup has to be amicable, and some will end with angry conversations and the block button. That is OK. In relationships, it is often difficult to shift from a romantic relationship to a platonic relationship, so do not beat yourself up, if the friendship does not workout.
