As we age, we can all agree that each year brings more wisdom and a few lessons that'll stick with us over the years. As my sixteenth year comes to an end, I've put together a list of lessons I've not only learned this year, but continuously.
1. People who don't want a role in your life won't fight for one; don't reserve a space for them when they do not deserve it.
It is inevitable that you may lose contact with people you used to be good friends with, but be sure to keep the friends close to you that'll text you to check in after a long day. Consistency and compassion are two very important traits that aren't very easy to come by. Therefore, if you have people in your life that are both, keep them. On the other hand, with the current generation, people always seem to be avoiding confrontation. If you find yourself constantly starting a conversation with that cute boy in your English class, and he never seems to carry his responsibility of the conversation, let him go. You'll find someone instead who doesn't want to go a moment in their day without talking to you.
2. You are worth more than what he thinks of you.
This one is self-explanatory, but very necessary for all to know.
3. There is nothing better than those late night car drives. Get your best friend and go. Vent, cry, scream, it helps.
I cannot stress enough how relaxing it is to ride in a car, screaming song lyrics from a middle school tune, and talking everything out with your go-to person.
4. Find what you love and never stop doing it. Find your escape.
Our world, as we all know it, is constantly moving. From sports to social media, it is easy to get lost. This is when you find your escape—let it be drawing, sports, a musical instrument, and so on. These activities will get your mind off whatever it may be thinking, which will keep you a little less stressed than you were before.
5. That boy who tells you how important you are, constantly, is special. Keep him. Boys like him don't come around often.
People who build you up and see you for who you are, and value that, are irreplaceable.
6. Put yourself out there and take risks. It's all worth it.
There are so many instances in life that'll have you looking back and wishing you took the risk or told someone how you really felt. Try to minimize the likelihood of you looking back and wishing you had less "what if" moments.
7. Express yourself, for yourself. Physically, mentally, emotionally, etc. Do it.
Don't be afraid of what other people may think of you. Simple to say, but the hardest to do. However, it pays off.
8. Sometimes all you need is some cuddles with your cat to feel better.
9. Some people will not care about you. Screw them, move on. Find the people who do.
10. Crying is okay. Don't hold your tears in.
11. You are not defined by a bad grade.
This one is especially relevant, as the number of standardized tests that students are required to take is exponentially growing. If you get a bad grade, move on. There will be more tests, more opportunities, and it will be okay.
12. Find a best friend that you're constantly laughing with. It is the best feeling to always have a smile on your face.
13. Traveling will open your eyes, and overall make you happier. There are so many beautiful people in this world, inside and out.
Though I plan to write an article specifically about the wonderful benefits of traveling, I cannot stress enough how thankful you will be for such a life-changing experience.
14. Some people do not know how to use round-a-bouts. Be aware.
Sixteen is the age that most Americans find themselves on the roads, so I felt it was obligatory to include this one. As a teen, drive safe. Choose a playlist, close Snapchat, and put your phone down. I'm sure you don't want to find out what could happen if you don't.
15. Surround yourself with friends who make you a better person due to their positive influence(s).
Throughout high school, people change. The people you've known since middle school may no longer be the people you thought you knew, but that's okay. I've found it important to be friends with people who believe in the same ideas as myself, which has resulted in befriending many student-athletes. These friends will keep you on the right path, and that is something you will be incredibly thankful for.
16. Pain is temporary. What you're feeling right now will not last forever, and you are going to be okay.
Your teen years are hard, and there are many pressures placed on you by society, school, and family members. However, the stress and challenges will not last forever. It will get easier, and you will be okay. I promise.
