- When somebody cancels plans I’m happy about it. Yes, this sounds so utterly horrible but honestly before I hang out with anyone I go over a million possible conversations of how I can respond and what they’ll ask me that by the time we actually hang out I’m exhausted.
- I’m bad at making plans with people in advance. I have taught myself to not make plans at night because I underestimate how little I will want to actually leave the house during the day.
- People on social media think I’ll be super outgoing in person but I only am once I’m comfortable with you. There are like 4 people I can be completely myself around without feeling somewhat judged and that’s it. So tragic, I know.
- I. Hate. Partying. I went out with friends like twice last year and once it hit 11pm I just wanted to go home, shower, and watch Netflix.
- Whenever teachers say “partner up” in a class where I know no one I panic. In college this is a little better because it’s usually just with whoever you’re next to but in High School this would literally be the worst thing ever for me.
- I would rather stay home because people in large groups annoy me. Honestly driving to pick up coffee annoys me so bad because people can’t drive. When I’m home I can just sit on Tumblr and blog cat memes all day.
- I’m not bad at making friends I just can’t get close to people easily. This probably comes with not trusting anyone but I very much prefer to keep my circle very small with a few people I trust.
- It’s hard for me to focus because I’m focusing on about 80 things at one time. Really. It sucks. This is also why I prefer to be alone with a book or watching a show because it’s less to think about.
- When I have to go to a new place without a friend I get even more stressed than normal. I like feeling comfortable in things so even though I know I’ll make new friends I hate to be out of my element.
- Downtime is the best time. There’s so many people I know who are always looking for a “move” but for me that is eating tacos in bed.
- I never pick up the phone when people call. This also sounds bad but if a friend randomly calls I will call back once I am in a quieter place, I have gathered the energy to talk, and/or I am ready to have a conversation.
- Adults forget I’m as young as I am. When I used to work retail at 17 years old my co-workers in their 30’s would ask me to come out with them and forget I wasn’t even 18 yet. I think a lot before I speak, especially at work, and it makes me seem older than I am.
- I get stressed when I don’t have down time or I won’t have time for down time. I recharge in being alone so a day where I go from class, to work, to a birthday party leaves me more drained than most.
- Giving a speech to 100 people I don’t know is easier than giving a speech to 10 people I do know. I am very self-critical of my own work especially when people I’m close to can read or hear it.
- I hate being surrounded by people. When I go to study at the library or Starbucks I will sit in the corners. I enjoy solitude and I do not enjoy strangers.
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Luckily, many colleges offer a number of ways to take part in campus and community life, without forcing you to dedicate all of your time to these organizations. Here are a few ideas!
1. Look into Housing and Dining.
Many first-year students start off college life in residence halls, and the Housing & Dining network throughout campus often provides multiple opportunities for students throughout the year. Many buildings have student community councils that work to create policies and events that make the dorms a more welcoming home for residents. Becoming a community assistant (or the students who work the desks at the front of many halls) is another easy way to have a consistent, well-paying job only minutes away from your room.
If you really enjoyed your housing experience, consider applying to be an RLA, or, if the school offers it, help to teach the first-year community. You'll get the chance to help support new and returning students over the year, and many of these positions also cover major costs like board and meal plans.
2. Pay attention to campus postings.
This advice is more obvious, but it still gets overlooked a fair amount. Even on a busy day, taking the time to stop around campus and look at the flyers advertising clubs and events can draw your attention to something that you never would've noticed otherwise. Students on many campuses also chalk the sidewalk to catch students' attention while they walk to class. Just make sure that the event you're interested in hasn't taken place already!
3. Find common interest groups.
One way to find friends and get involved is to focus on what you're passionate about. Have you always loved to sing? Do you enjoy playing video games? Is photography your favorite past-time? Have you always wanted to join Greek life? Whatever you love devoting your time to, chances are there are organizations around school who are focused on the same thing. Check the student life section of your university's website, or stop by a student organization fair at the beginning of the semester.
4. Join an intramural sports team.
If you're the athletic type, you've probably heard of intramural sports. Often offered through the Rec Center or the residence halls, most colleges often offer various indoor and outdoor sports to take part in throughout the year. Personal favorite? Mini golf.
5. Work on a cause that you care about.
Whether you're passionate about a political group, a social cause, or a religion, working with people who value beliefs similar to yours can be an easy way to meet people, get a better sense of your own identity, and promote causes that are important to you. Look into getting involved with College Democrats, Republicans, or whatever party that you belong to. Find a club that supports social issues, from women's rights to protecting the environment. If you're religious, look into student organizations based on your faith.
6. Join a club related to your major.
Even if you're not entirely sure what you want to do after school, finding a club or organization related to your field of studies can benefit you long after you leave the classroom. From career-related workshops to conferences to professional connections, these groups have a lot to boast.
7. Get an on-campus job.
If you have the time, need to work, or want to save a few extra dollars, finding a job on or near campus is a time-effective way to build up your bank account and gain work experience. Check in your residence hall (see #1), at local businesses and offices, or make an appointment with your school's career center.
8. Volunteer.
When you're caught up in school life, it can be hard to think about the bigger picture. Volunteering your time to people (or animals/an environment) in need puts things in perspective and allows you to feel good while making a positive difference. Check if your college town has a volunteer page, or look up local organizations requesting help.
Best of luck this year! Get out, and get busy.
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