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15 Things People Wtih Anxiety Don't Want To Hear

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Erin Martin

Jul 25, 2016

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Your heart starts pounding, your hands start to sweat, thoughts are racing in your head and you feel an unwanted source of fear in the pit of your stomach. This, my friends, is what anxiety feels like. Dealing with anxiety is something most people deal with on a daily basis, and unfortunately it's hard to make it go away on your own. However, the hardest part about dealing with anxiety is the assumptions and judgements from those who don't understand what we're going through. I'm over here battling with myself internally to keep myself together, and you telling me to simply "cut it out" isn't going to help at all. In fact, it's just going to make me even more anxious. Here's a list of things you shouldn't say to someone with anxiety.

1. "It's all in your head."

I know. That's why it's called a mental disorder.

2. "Can't you just relax?"

Yeah, just give me an hour or two...

3. "Calm down."

I'm trying.

4. "Isn't there a pill you can take for that?"

Yeah, there are medications, but maybe those with anxiety problems don't want to depend on a drug.

5. "Do you really need medication for it?"

If that's the only way we can cope with our anxiety, then it's probably necessary.

6. "Are you doing this for attention?"

Seriously...?

7. "You're overreacting!"

Again... Seriously?

8. "I know how you feel."

Empathy is great, but I'd rather you share me your advice with how you cope with it.

9. "There are people going through worse stuff you know."

Yeah, I know. In fact, I feel for them and can't even imagine what others are going through. However, that doesn't mean you can belittle how I feel.

10. "What's wrong with you?"

Feeling like I'm not able to control myself and feeling like something is wrong in general. That's what's wrong.

11. "What do you have going on to be so stressed out about?"

I have personally heard this so many times and all I can say is what gives you the right to say that to someone without even considering their feelings?

12. "It's not that serious."

To you it may seem that way, but for me it feels like I'm losing myself.

13. "Everything is fine."

I know and I know you're just saying that to comfort me, but it's hard for me to simply believe that,

14. "At least you're physically OK."

Yeah, I get that, but shouldn't my mental health be treated like my physical health?

15. "Did I do something wrong?"

No! Not at all. I just get like this for no reason at all and it happens at the most random, unexpected and stressful times.

If you know someone who is dealing with anxiety, take a moment to put yourself in their shoes and try to understand what they are going through. You would want them to do the same for you. Trying to understand and help that person is honestly one of the best things you can do to help calm someone down and make them feel more comfortable.

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There's more to anxiety than you think.

1. "It's all in your head."

2. "Can't you just relax?"

3. "Calm down."

4. "Isn't there a pill you can take for that?"

5. "Do you really need medication for it?"

6. "Are you doing this for attention?"

7. "You're overreacting!"

8. "I know how you feel."

9. "There are people going through worse stuff you know."

10. "What's wrong with you?"

11. "What do you have going on to be so stressed out about?"

12. "It's not that serious."

13. "Everything is fine."

14. "At least you're physically OK."

15. "Did I do something wrong?"

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It's so rude that we have finals.

1. When you look at your finals schedule and become immediately overwhelmed:

2. When your professor says that the final is only going to be short answer questions:

3. When you text your parents to tell them that you're going to have a mental breakdown and drop out of college and they're just like:

4. When you're trying to study with friends, but then you realize that you haven't gotten anything done:

5. Then you just end up going on your phone.

6. When you're two weeks away from finals and your professor tells you that you should probably start studying now:

7. When you sit down to take your final and the first question hits you like:

8. When you start the practice problems and you're just like:

9. When you're in your final and find a question that you actually know the answer to:

10. When that one annoying kid in your class says that the final was super easy and they aced it:

11. When you come back from your 7:30 a.m. final and crash:

12. When your professor tries to teach you new material a week before the final:

13. When you decide to eat away the pain that is finals week by ordering massive amounts of food:

14. Filling out course evaluations for that one difficult professor like:

15. When it's right before your first final and you're just like:

16. When your professor tells that you the final is cumulative:

17. When the kid next to you keeps looking over at your test:

18. Looking back on the outfits that you wore during finals week like:

19. When it's been two hours and you've only gotten through five notecards:

20. When you finally make it to the end of the week:

There's always chaos in the restaurant business.

Anytime you turn a corner the words "corner!" without you even realizing.

People are amazed at how professional you are when speaking to strangers, or on the phone

When we say "table 17 is on a bus", table 17 isn't LITERALLY on a bus.

You understand the frustration of the functions of another existing restaurant when going out to eat.

When you repeat the same spiel 40 times you start to sound like a lifeless robot.

The rush of prime dinner service. The chaos is riveting.

You have "that guy" at a table that makes you want to pull your hair out.

Getting stiffed an entire tip is worse than dealing with a difficult human being.

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