As college students, our time is valuable. If we’re not sitting in a class room or meeting with a professor, we’re either trying to catch even a 20 minute nap, or crying helplessly about our questionable futures taking a minute to gather our thoughts.

If you’re anything like me, every day feels like it’s on an hour-to-hour schedule. If you don’t pencil in time to eat, you’ll probably forget until it’s midnight and you’re finally in bed. So why do we feel like something is wrong if we’re not dating anyone? If we’re not talking, texting, flirting, hooking up with or committed to another person?

The fact of the matter is, sometimes we’re too busy for a relationship. So before you try to force something that doesn’t work, here are 15 signs that you are way too busy to focus on another person right now.

1.When you get home, you don’t even talk to your roommates.

Unless they suddenly became a therapist, you can’t bring yourself to talk to another human being.

2. You told your mom you’d “figure out a tentative date” when she asked when she could call you next.

3. Your laundry hasn’t made it to your drawers, properly folded, since the semester started. The floor is the same…right?

4. When your friend asked if you’d seen the latest Netflix show, you started laughing…which turned into crying.

5. “Lunch” is the gum you’re chewing on the way from one meeting to the next.

6. When your parents asked how your roommates were, your response was, “Who?”

7. You couldn’t even scream when you saw a spider in your room because you didn’t have time to pull yourself back together, emotionally.

8. You body-checked the “in love” freshmen couple holding hands, walking slowly to their next class. No one has time for that.

9. You literally refuse to be sick. It’s not an option.

10. When you sit down at a table, it’s habit to take out your planner, because odds are you’re either marking something off or writing something in.

11. “Sleep” has become a fairy-tale you don’t even have time to read.

12. “Kind of texting this guy/girl” is too much commitment.

13. Last week you were asked out for dinner, and you asked if you could bring some paperwork to finish while you ate.

14. Naps are a luxury you cannot afford, just like your sanity.

15. You’ve considered visiting the on-campus therapist just so you’ll have one meeting a week where you’re expected to vent.

Moral of the story is that if you don’t have time to run a brush through your hair, you don’t have time to give to another person. So do them, and yourself, a favor, and just call it what it is: a meeting you'll need to reschedule.