I got married a few months ago. He's a living dream. So much better than anything they have down at Disney World. Anyways, I truly believe I could have met him sooner and loved him longer, had I not been going out with all the wrong guys. If I could do it again, I would do a lot of things differently. This is just the short list.
1) Stop waiting around for a guy.
Do we have plans? Should I wait a little longer to see if he wants to hang out? No, girl. Just please stop. If he wants to see you, he'll find a way to see you.
2) Stop blowing off your friends for a man.
When he dumps you the way you should have dumped him, your friends will be the only ones there to help you plot your vengeance.
3) Stop being so forgiving.
I know Jesus says you're supposed to forgive someone a zillion times. But maybe in this case, Jesus is telling you it's time to walk (read: run) away.
4) Stop being afraid to be single.
Let's run back to the same guy who treats us badly just so we can pretend we're not lonely. Great plan.
5) Stop living in the past.
There's a reason you guys broke up in high school. Keep the good memories, but leave the guy behind.
6) Stop feeling guilty for wanting more.
You DO deserve more. You're not selfish. You're not high maintenance. He wants you to settle, but you'll never forgive yourself if you do.
7) Stop letting a man determine your value.
If he doesn't want you, there's something wrong with him, not you. He can't strip you of your personality, your joy, your passion, or your beauty.
8) Stop believing everything he says.
He doesn't love you. End of story. He can say it all he wants, but if his actions don't match his words, it's just an empty lie.
9) Stop being so naive.
He's far away at another college, he never calls, and he never comes home, and you think he isn't cheating on you? You poor naive girl. You're living in a fantasy.
10) Stop letting a man get away with missing the big things.
Birthdays ARE important. Not just his, but yours too!
11) Stop letting a man buy your affection.
Not even diamond rings can make up for years of neglect.
12) Stop letting a man belittle your passions.
Your passions and hobbies are JUST as important as his are.
13) Stop lowering your standards.
The man that's meant for you will pursue you. He will meet most, if not all of your expectations. You won't have to lower the bar when you meet the right man.
14) Stop letting a man make you feel stupid.
You're brilliant. You have talents like no one else. Just because you don't have a career path, or a degree yet, doesn't make you any less of a person.
15) Stop settling for less than happiness.
This IS NOT as good as it gets. Oh honey, not even close. There's something better right around the corner. Stop holding on so tightly to the Wrong man, and soon, God will show you the right one.
